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They are just being kids...
- Aug 26, 2009 at 10:36 PM
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With the new school year starting (or having started for some already) I really feel like i need to say this.. my son is no where near school age yet.. (he is 2.5 and the other one is not here yet) But this is something i struggled with alot in school and im sure millions of others can relate.. I was thinking about it alot today and felt it needed to be shared.. my story is no where near as bad but who is to say what could have been had times and situatuions been different.. what i am writing here is fiction based on truth.. please take a minute to read it... it could save a life or two...
A little boy started his first day at a new school. He was excited and scared at the same time. he had just transfered to a new district and was hoping for a new start. He was an odd kid by their standards.. freckles glasses and second hand clothes.. he liked school and wanted to do well biut couldnt seem to fit in. He got on the bus and waved goodbye to his mom. HE sat down. the bus pulled off. Within minutes a bigger child came over and pushed him out of his seat.. "hey this is my spot dork get to the back of the bus" flustered the boy told him no... the bigger child pushed him off again.. the boy went to the back and was crying.. He reproted it to the driver as he was getting off.. the bus driver stated "just ngroe him son.. hes just being a kid..
A few days later he was playing on the monkey bars.. He fell off and went to get back up.. a few other kids poushed him down again and teased him.. the playground montior told them to stop, but then told the boy not to worry, they are just being kids and to toughen up..
This went on for awhile.. each time the boy was teased or bullied he was told the same thing "they are just being kids" He told his mom and dad and begged to switch schools.. He was told to hang in there a little while longer.. after all they are just kids...
by the end of the year the boy could take it no longer.. He was sick of being called names, being shoved down having his glasses broken and his clothes torn...
He went into his dads room.. found the keys to his safe and grabbed the gun.
The next day 3 of his classmates a teacher and himself were dead...
The principals, parents, teachers, police and community wondered why such a nice boy had done such tragic and violent thing..
He was pushed to far.. He reached out for help.. he was told they were just being kids.. He was at his last straw and felt he had no other choice... they were after all just kids.. well so he was he.. but he was a kid with a gun.. a kid sick and tired of being picked on.. a kid who fetl he had no other choice and no where to turn. a kid on the brink who resorted to deperate measures to stop the teasing...
School bullying is a serious thing! Many adults take it lightly. Alot of the times it seems as though the child who is being bullied is the one who becomes the victim in the eye of the adult as well.. they are blowing it up to be more then it is.. they are egging the other kids on.. the bullies get a slap on the wrist and sent off.. the bullied child has to live in pain and fear for the next day. I was bullied and teased in school. luckily i had parents who beilieved in a supported me.. teachers could be another story at times but my parents always listened. Not every child is so lucky. PLEASE MOMMAS! If you child or any child comes to you and tells you they are being teased or picked on in school.. take it serious.. Yes i agree kids will be kids.. but only to a certain extent.. pushing , hitting, degrading and harrasing is not being a kid.. it is a seriuos problem.. it is so sad when kids feel so so out of place they feel they have no other choice then to do something desperate... I am not by any means condoing violence in schools or shooting.. I am simply saying that in some cases violence or suicide can be prevented if we as adults take the time to listen.. let your children and your childrens freinds know that they cam come to you adn trust you... one adults to listen is bettter then none
If you agree please bump up so thatt others can see..
You amy help save a life or two this year.
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I have the book and have read it a million times.. LOVE IT!
I really liked her follow up book as well :) It gave more insight to the different degrees of bullying children go through and how a parents actions can actually make it worse or better. Also the schools lack of understanding and how schools can help to stop the problems. I would love to see her speak.
Thank you! Here's a site that has lots of helpful info too!
just logged on this morning to see this is at number 6!!! hopefully it can help somebody
I used to be teased at school myself they called me names and degraded me as well but this was in the eighties but like i am now i just took it and cried to myself and was depressed and tries to commit suicide at 15 b/c i did not think nobody cared, I am glad you wrote this b/c i have not even thought about expressing to nyone what i have been through with my childhood and now at 31 years of age i have learnedthroughout my life that bullying needs to stop because bullets kill and ppl need to be aware of this guns are serious and nowadays a person can pull a trigger without thinking about the consequences.
I remember my parents saying to ignore the bullies, and I did to a point and the day I turned around and socked the bully on the playground was the last day I had to ignore any bullying.
we have a great school system here. first the bully has to go to the stop and think room, 2x the bully gets a confrence with the victim and principal and in school detention 3x confrence with parents and detention 4x expelled. the victim is always taken seriously. and parent are always welcome to have confrences with the principal, conflicts are always discussed and solutions worked out, even when it happens on the bus. i am so lucky that my children go to the school that they do.
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