The flip side to being beautiful....

[jillisue808]

I just finished reading a wonderful post about a girl who was always told she was pretty growing up, but never told she was smart or funny, just pretty. It was eye opening, because I always thought that the pretty people had it made. See, growing up, my sister was the pretty one, I was the outgoing, funny one. I've always been big. I've always been taller than everyone else, and at some points in my life I was very obese. I never had a steady boyfriend all through school. I always had friends, just never boyfriends. I never felt pretty, and no one bothered to tell me I was, except my parents of course. Sometimes girls would tell me I was pretty, my friends and stuff, but not ever boys. As I got older, I got lonlier and really just wanted someone to share my life with. I started confusing other things with love. I lost a lot of weight in a short amount of time, 80lbs in 9 months, and I started to feel good about myself. I still didn't have a steady boyfriend though. I couldn't put my finger on it, why didn't men look at me in that way? I think I have it figured out now, I needed to love myself for who I was, because if I couldn't love myself how could anyone else love me? The first thing we need to teach our children is how to love themselves no matter what they look like. There is nothing wrong in taking pride in how you look, or trying to be healthy and stay at a healthy weight, but I want my step daughter to know that she is a beautiful person on the inside as well as on the outside. She does not need a man to define her, or to add to her self worth. I had to come to that conclusion myself, even though it hasn't been easy. If I could have come to that conclusion years ago, I wouldn't have married the first guy to come alone and show me some attention, and I wouldn't be going through a divorce right now. I've finally come to the conclusion that if I don't find my self worth then I'm going to be miserable the rest of my life. I hope that in some way I can help other women who are in the same situation I'm in, I hope this post helps at least one person realize that they are beautiful inside and out.

[bella69147]

Jan. 11, 2010 at 12:36 PM

Aww. I know how you feel. I lost a lot of weight. It has been over twenty years now and I still feel like the pudgy kid in junior high. I am so the complete opposite but insie I am still the quiet chick who just was in awe of all the beautiful girls in school. Now I am one of them and I still feel insecure as ever on the inside.On the outside though I am really tough and I will never ever change.