Little Girl Lost

[momaof8]

This is what Iam talking about. We had a little girl for three years. When we got her she was almost two when she left us almost five. When we got her she was thought to be severly autistic. She would sit and bang her head and rock back and forth. She didn't speak, feed herself, or walk. It turned out her bio mom had just enviromentally deprived her. Basically kept her in a crib never teaching her to walk or talk.

Over the first two years we had her we taught her to walk, talk, feed herself, ect. We taught her sign language combined with speech and she over came all her issue. By the time she was four she was on target. We were supposed to move forward toward adoption.

Fast forward a little after eight different workers they decided to return her to her biological family. The biological mom had not reformed was still a mentally ill herion addict. We were given twenty four hours and the child was removed from the only home she had ever known. The last time we saw her she was screaming begging us to save her as the worker drug her from our home.

Fast forward six years she is now twelve. She apparently fell through the cracks in the system. She was back in and they wanted to know if we would take her. We were initially excited to help her. Then we found out the system had destroyed this beautiful girl. They allowed her to be in the most horrific surroundings, that included physical and sexual abuse. She is now at a point that she is unsafe to bring into our home around our children. She is violent and acts out.

This breaks my heart. She was a beautiful intelligent child who did not deserve this. She has been placed in a group home and her prognosis isn't good. Most likely she will age out of the sytem and fall by the wayside. I hope some how Iam wrong.

I just want to scream! Someone has to stop the system from destrying these kids. How can they lose track of a child and no one is held accountable? How could they allow her to be damaged like this? Will we ever make a difference? THIS HAS TO STOP

 

[aurorabunny]

Aug. 28, 2009 at 8:28 AM

I'm sorry to hear about all that, I did just want to let you know that being environmentally neglected does NOT cause autism.  What a sad story though.

[momaof8]

Aug. 28, 2009 at 8:38 AM

I know it does not cause autism they mistook enviromental deprivation for autism.

(Original Poster)

[Kellyjude1]

Aug. 28, 2009 at 8:50 AM

 My heart goes out to you and that precious little girl.  I also know of one little boy who is lost.  He is in the system.  Waiting for a mom, to straighten her life out but never has.  Waiting for a mom to come and see him, but does only when she wants.  He has been in and out of foster homes, and has been abused.  Sadly, he is still in the system that should have protected him yet that is where his abuse stemmed from.  He is emotionally destroyed-counseling has not helped.  He is now uncontrollable.  All I can do is pray.  I wonder how many lost angels there are- Clearly that little girl should have stayed where the love and stability was and that was with you!  It angers me that the system designed to protect children fails them!  I will be praying for this little girl.  This is so sad that they ripped this child from the only love she knew- how hard you must have worked how much love you gave...Please know you did all that you could.  Sadly, others failed to see that!  God Bless you....

[survivorinohio]

Jan. 31, 2010 at 11:50 AM

How sad.  I am so sorry that you had to deal with this so personally:(  The system does not always work for these kids :(

[Bellarose0212]

Feb. 26, 2010 at 10:04 PM

I am so sorry. Both for you witnessing that ruined life, and for the shattered potential of the little girl, and for all the other children the system will fail. Started reading your book. I don't have the extra money to buy it now but I will. I think adoption, and foster adoption is in my future (probably distant future because of finances). I want to know, after reading about the first little boy you lost and this little girl. In the end, was it worth it? All this horror and pain, do you still feel it is good that you drug yourself through the system? I know we are strong enough to deal with so much as parents, including special needs, sibling groups, biracial kids, etc. What I don't know is if we are strong enough to not commit a crime (see kidnapping, murder) if a child we loved as our own was sent into an abusive situation.

[nowmommyof2]

Jan. 12, 2011 at 5:42 PM

(I'm sorry to hear about all that, I did just want to let you know that being environmentally neglected does NOT cause autism.  What a sad story though)

I'm sorry your wrong, I saw a child that was neglected her entire life stuck in a room by herself with a bottle for 8 years and this DID CAUSE HER TO BE AUTISTIC!

I hate the system too...I have seen them take children away that are NOT neglected and yet they fail to take aways the ones that ARE, its sick and Wrong!!!

[momaof8]

Jan. 12, 2011 at 6:18 PM

They thought she had autism    she was in reality just enviromentally deptived. She was left with no attention accept food and water for days. never taught to walk or talk. Never really taken out of her crib. Until we got her. Because she was two could not walk or talk. All she would do was rock back and forth they THOUGHT she had autism. She didn't. Thanks  for your well wishes.

(Original Poster)