In a serious Dilemma- What is best for my baby?!

[Lulu_101]

Ok so me and my husband come from two different countries and we don't have the same nationalities.

I got pregnant. I am Canadian and he is Saudi Arabian. There's obviously alot of different laws that clash here...

My Question is: What is best for the baby given my situation?- to give birth in Canada or in Bahrain(borders saudi arabia)?

Please keep in mind that:

1- My hubby got his passport stolen and his country has a hard time giving him a new one. It's been months! He can't come a week before I am expecting or anything..he can't see his baby in the birthing room..I have to do all the travelling with the baby!

2- Even though I have a valid Canadian marriage certificate, it is not even registered yet by the Saudi Government as you need "permission" from them. It's very complex but not really..so basically waht I am saying is that I'm not registered as his wife there, therefore, I am not entitled to his medical insurance or anything...bascially not considered his wife by the GOVT unless I get that permission and the paperwork is done.

3- If the baby was born outside Canada, it would take a long time to get his Saudi citizenship. I could also give birth in Canada and his citizenship and paperwork would come in a month.

4- If I were to give birth in Canada, I would probably need to stay in with my parents and become psychologically ill again because of my mom. She is very controlling, emotionally abusive, wants everything her way or else "you're punished" wtf..I''m not even a teen for god's sake! She gave the most severe kind of depression where I locked myself in my room and never came out for months! I was anorexic and I looked like a ghost..very dead looking and beat up.I think I would probably feel so intimidated and

5- My friend said she would support me if I decide to give birth in Canada- attend my birth and all that.

6-While I am staying at my weirdo parents house I could also work on credits towards my high school diploma..

How soon do you think I can travel with my baby after giving birth?

So what do you think- Stay with my husband and give birth here(middle east) and be relaxed but baby's canadian citizenship does not come after 2 years, passport 2 weeks.

OR

Stay with my crazy psycho family and suck it up- look for a full time job and full time courses lol and stay outside the house then just come back to eat and sleep?

[Nixshix]

Sep. 1, 2009 at 2:23 PM

Hi! My name is Nikki and I am also Canadian! I live in Alberta.

I would say STAY IN CANADA! PLEASE! You can get the help you need here to raise your baby. THere is a Canadian Child Tax benefit and a few other benifits that you can get. Most of them they will give you the papers for in the hospital when you have a baby.

I don't know what province you are in, but there are health for 2 progrms for unwed mothers and they help GREATLY! I qualified with my first baby and I had access to a doula, for free, they gave me milk coupons, but tickets and so much information on programs for schooling, childcare, subsidies... everything.

Personally, I think Canada is a much safer place to raise your child, for you and your baby. ALSO, If your child is born here then the father has a better chance of gaining canadian citizenship if they have a canadian born child.