do us all a favor and get over it

[autiemommy2]

Deb,

Please do us all a favor - and I mean: you, me, Joe, etc... and get over it. Start acting your age and like the adult you are supposed to be. You are in your 55 years old. It is well past time for you to act that age. You are not a child. Don't act like one. Your constant pouting, whining, and immaturity is not tolerated. Your insaitiable ability to hang on to the past (and constantly bring it up) is beyond annoying and petty. So get over it. It's time for you to move on and accept the fact that no one is going to pamper you - especially your children or me, your daughter-in-law. That is NOT my job. It never has been. It never will be.

You need to get over the fact that your son and I are married. It's been 5 years. We have 2 children and another one due any day. We are the only ones producing grandchildren and no, we are not having a girl. Ever. We are both "fixed" - whether you like that fact or not. You have done nothing to help us. You have only complained. We owe you nothing... not even money. Get over it.

You need to deal with the fact that you are a grandmother AND the you and only you made the choice to not be involved in the lives of your grandchildren. You can try to blame it on me, but I have not kept you from them. You chose not to come to our house when invited - as rare as that invitation was. Get over it. Now.

You need to come to grips with reality - not your version of life. This is not a soap opera or "reality" tv. This is life. Just because you want to remember it a certain way doesn't mean that is actually happened that way. You were sick as a child. Okay. You are not a child. You had cancer. Yeah, me too. You can try to play the victim, but we are not feeding that monster. You act more like a nurse than a mother. Your grown kids don't talk to you for that reason. You choose to be a traveling nurse because you have to feel useful - you know your daughter has her own life and it making a career for herself; and your son and I are fed up with your crap... especially not acknowledging our children. Get over it.

You need to let go of the fact that we live our life the way that fits us. We raise our children the way we want - the way that benefits them the most, not us. We are not selfish. You chose to dump your kids off on others. We don't. We raise our kids. We do everything we humanly can to ensure their health, happiness, and safety - no matter what cost. We have sacrificed a lot for our boys - to include any career I might have had. I stay home because I want to, because it is the best thing for the boys. I am not selfish so I don't dump them in a daycare just so I can have a job. I actually love my kids and love being with them - despite their problems. Autism and Deafness are certainly not easy... and we never get a day off from it. By the way, we did not need the reminder that something may be wrong with our 3rd son. We realize that is a possibility, but we don't focus on the negative. We are hoping that he is healthy and normal, but if he has a special need, so what?! We are pros to that life now. Get over it.

You need to deal with the fact that we never let family stay at our house. There are so many reasons why... you being the main reason. If we let you in the door, you would never leave. And I won't have you trying to control us because you can't control anything else. That is your problem. We never let my family stay in our home, so it's not like we are being mean to you. That's really childish of you. Everyone whom has ever visited has stayed in a hotel. We simply do not have extra room. We don't have extra beds. We certainly don't have extra money for the utilities! You can afford a hotel room. We don't want family in our house for a few other reasons... like A is allergic to everything. You and others would be bringing in pet dander. Guess what? We have to sit in the ER with him when he is sick. We have to hold him down and force meds just so he can be sort of comfortable. You do nothing but make him sick. Our kids have routine. When they are not on it, they are irritable and difficult. It is easier for them and us if they stay consistent with their normal life. Get over it.

You are not the end all be all. You are not my mother. You are not even my step mother. You have treated me like dirt for over 5 years. And no, that is not my fault. The fact that you called me by the ex-wife's name for 2 years is beyond insulting. You have never apologized. And for some ludacris reason, you expect me to apologize to you... and I don't even know what the reason is. You can claim it is because I shut you out, but we both know you shut yourself out. I tried to make amends, for my husband's sake, but you continued to act like a brat who is not getting her way. The feet stomping and tantrums won't be tolerated from you. I expect them from my 3.5 year old, but not from my mother in law. You choose to act like a child and I don't have time to raise you. You are not my responsibility or priority. My husband and children are my focus. Get over it.

There are so many things in life that are worth fretting over... but what you have decided to blow out of proportion is not. That is all on you. We continue to live our lives. We don't think about you. We don't wonder how it makes you feel because we know you are trying to manipulate us. And since you cannot, you are frustrated and acting out - just as a child would and does. That's too bad. Now, get over it.