Seriously, ladies. I see so many posts arguing how working moms are better than stay at home moms. How single moms have it harder than married moms. WTF?????

First and foremost, let us address the WM vs. SAHM. Feminism is to be blamed for this idiocy. Mainly because woman were SOOO concerned about being equal to men that they forgot what feminism was all about. IT IS ABOUT THE CHOICE. The CHOICE to stay home, or the CHOICE to work. Why do you working moms get the choice to work, but if we stay home and raise our children, we are just lazy and we do not want to work. You know, us SAHMs could say you do not love your children and you are escaping them. (note: I said we COULD say that, I never said we DO say that.)

By that same token, SAHMs those working moms work for a reason. Some women are meant to stay home, some are not. Do not presume to push your values on someone else.

Single moms, listen, I have been where you are, for six friggin years, and you know? I found it easier being single. My house stayed clean, my money was spent how and when I wanted it to be spent and I didn't have a man up my hiney about how the dinner sucks. But, I would not trade my marraige for the world. So, PPPPPPPPPPTTTTTTTTTTHHHHHHHHHHHHHHBBBBBBBBBBBB.

Married moms, lay off the single moms. It is tough going through everything by yourself, even the joyful parts. Our kids don't celebrate a promotion like a husband could. And there is no one there at night to stroke your hair and tell you it is going to be alright.

Ladies, EVERY MOTHER IS A WORKING MOTHER. I don't care if she stays home, works, or tap dances on central flipping boulevard. Fact is, we ALL contribute to our families, and I am sick and tired of all these self righteous twatwaffles telling us that we are lazy.

We moms have the toughest job in the world, whether we work or are home, it is still hard. But, it is the most rewarding job we will ever have. The pay rate sucks, there is NO vacation days and if you get sick, you are S.O.O.L. But the benefits package can't be beat. So, ladies, lay off of one another's choices, would you?

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Sep. 2, 2009 at 2:09 AM

Very well written... and ohhhh so true!

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Sep. 2, 2009 at 2:46 AM

I totally agree! Twatwaffles TEHEHE!!! i'm totally using that from now on! ROFLMAO!!!

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Sep. 2, 2009 at 8:03 AM

Thank You !    For speaking such common sense in a world that has seem to have lost it's mind.    clapping

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Sep. 2, 2009 at 8:26 AM

I totally agree.  Some people think there choice is the only choice one should make.  As long as the child is safe, happy, healthy, and loved what does it matter?

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Sep. 2, 2009 at 8:40 AM

twatwaffle   Ha ha ha

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Sep. 2, 2009 at 8:45 AM

well said!   this statement jumped out at me:  Feminism is to be blamed for this idiocy. Mainly because woman were SOOO concerned about being equal to men that they forgot what feminism was all about. IT IS ABOUT THE CHOICE. The CHOICE to stay home, or the CHOICE to work.

ive been both.  people can say whatever but i know what kind of mom i am and don't need the validation.  i laugh at the answers.  i'll usually jump in and defend someone who's getting beat up pretty bad

Crazy!  Lois Griffin said something verysimiliar to this on Family Guy!

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Sep. 2, 2009 at 8:47 AM

   I couldn't have said it better. My girls are grown now but I'll be the first to admit, " I'm not a 24hr. aday mom".  I was a single mom for years, worked alot. I also coached my girl in sports and never missed a school function. They turned out Good and they thank me alot for not bashing their father.  Alls well that ends well, starting a new generation now my daughter will become a mom in April, I am so looking forward to being a Nana

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Sep. 2, 2009 at 8:57 AM

     Well said, although I'm a SAHM and my husband is going to school, I have been a single mother and had 6 kids at the time that my ex husband left me for a younger woman.  So I can honestly say I know the workings of a single mother household. 

sweepingdoing laundryironingwashing dishesshoppingapronAND nerdydoctornursebriefcasegraduateteachernunWe all have jobs to do no matter how and where they are.


Trish - mother of 8

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Sep. 2, 2009 at 9:01 AM

Thank you so much for this post. Someone needed to say it.

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Sep. 2, 2009 at 9:17 AM

I agree, I have been all those- Working mom, SAHM and a single mom and all have their own problems associated with it. If moms would support each other no matter the choices that we made then I think we would all be better for it. 

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