Redneck Wedding -- The Final Chapter (we think)

[Squirrell34]

So many of you know for the past 3 years, I've been watching a good friend of mine go through a phase of her life.  She was a hardworking single Mom.  Lived alone.  She got control of her life -- got a gastric bypass, lost about 200 pounds, and started getting her self-esteem back.

Just as this happened, she met a man.  Now, when I initially met him, I thought he was OK.  As she told me more & more about him, and as I talked to him, I realized that he was a schmoozer, and an alcoholic.  Not a good combo.

They got married last year 9/20/08.  At our house.  That was a sight.  And as a result, I ended up calling her Redneck Bride, and him Redneck Hubby.

As the year progressed, things got worse.  The real truth about his DUI convictions comes out, and that it will take 3 years from when he STARTS rehab to get his license back.  Redneck Stepson moved into the house.  He is also a drunk, and a child abuser.  Racked up porno bills and destroyed a lawn mower & a washing machine with his indifference.  Hubby said nothing to his own son, and as a result, the family went into debt, enough for Bride to ask me for a $600 loan.

To try to make ends meet, Hubby takes on a promotion.  This requires him to have more stress, and be relocated to a new store where Bride can't drive him to & from work -- he now is "embarrassed" by taking public transit.  He starts drinking more than he did before.

Things come to a head 2 weeks ago.  She comes to the aid of one of her nephews, becoming his legal guardian, but he wants to live with his girlfriend's parents, who have physical custody.  (He's 16).  She's essentially making medical decisions if he gets hurt.  Hubby "forbids" her from taking legal guardianship, even though she's the most stable family member this kid has left -- because it might be another mouth to feed.  (Remember his son mooched off them).

She decides to leave him.  He threatens that if she signs papers for the nephew, she needs to move out & they're getting a divorce.  She decides to take her 16YO son and leave.  They stay at her best friend's house.

This makes him ANGRY. He goes on a bender.  He calls multiple people, leaving multiple messages regarding her "cheating" on him, and being a horrible mother & wife.  And that he never loved her & she's ugly.  He then (unbeknownst to her) chops up her dining room table, chairs & hutch.  Sets them on fire in the front yard of the house they are renting together.

Next day, she goes with friends to pack up & move out, & start the process of a divorce.   She's greeted with him being home.  She calls the cops; he's loaded into a cop car for drunk & disorderly conduct & assaulting a police officer.  She finds her table destroyed, and moves the rest of her stuff out.  She keeps his trailer as collateral, until he pays her for the table.

2 days later, she gets a phone call from him.  He's sorry, he wants her back, he's going to rehab.  He really does love her.  She says she's done.  I want to believe her.  I hope she really is.  She deserves better.

Sad thing is, her son said Hubby always gave the son the heebie jeebies.  Mike never liked Hubby.  But felt bad saying something, because she was so lonely & she always looked so happy with Hubby.  How sad.

I'm going to be helping her get on her feet if she steers clear of him & any other whackadoos.  We're going to sell her (on the dirt cheap) any appliances she needs to get started in a new place.  I'm going to ask her if she wants to babysit this fall for a few hours for a little extra cash up at our place.  Once she has a place of her own she can watch Andrew again there.

Well, that's the end of the Redneck Bride saga.  Mr. Squirrell did promise that if we ever divorce, he won't destroy our furniture -- he'll just cut down a tree in the woods.

[squeegeatc]

Sep. 4, 2009 at 8:50 PM

HAHAHAHAH  you are too stinking funny.  I hope she means it.  That is WAY too much to deal with.

[mmmegan38]

Sep. 5, 2009 at 12:30 PM

I think you are way to personally involved with her and her mess of a life. Being her friend is wonderful and be there for her, just take a step back and breathe in and out. Do you really need all the drama >??

[Squirrell34]

Sep. 5, 2009 at 12:58 PM

Oh I'm not involved personally.  After the wedding I told her that I could not see her outside of work because of this mess.   And for a while she stopped speaking to me because she didn't want to see his true colors.

She is a good person.  But needs some stable people in her life, and as long as she wants to get her life back on track, she has my support.  She goes back to a whackadoo -- and again, she's out.

I share this here only because I need to vent about my friend, and will not do it at work, or do it around my other friends since our town is so small.

(Original Poster)

[LoveMyDog]

Sep. 5, 2009 at 6:21 PM

Good luck to the bride and good riddance to the wackadoo!

[Tigger013169]

Sep. 6, 2009 at 1:09 PM

Oh I sure hope she can get her life straightened out now. I knew it was doomed from the beginning from the way you described the wedding. I am glad you are still her friend, you have a big heart!! I am also proud of how you knew when to step back from her too. I wish her good luck in the future!!