What is with these parents?!?! Am I watching the decline of our society???

[SVmagz]

I'm on facebook & have connected with many friends from high school.  My page, same as my life, is devoted to & filled with pics of my kids & hubby.  I do not party, I do drink (when not pregnant) an occasional beer or glass of wine ( I am no drunk).  My life really revolves around my family, as I feel it should after having kids.  Don't get me wrong, I still have my own interests & hobbies (my motorcycle, hiking, etc) that I nurture, but I just believe that once I committed myself as a wife & then as a mother the days of complete self indulgence were put behind me.

So many of my childhood friends are partying & getting drunk on a regular basis!  A good example is a gal who is a newly engaged single mom (if you can call her that, she "shares" her son with his father  50% of the time) who is getting drunk several times a week!  Usually when her boy isn't there, but at times she is having raucous parties while he's home!!!  Another one is an ex boyfriend who had an unexpected baby at 20yo & a subsequent unexpected marriage.  If his pictures tell the tale of his life, then his life is all about other women & partying.  The photographs he has are mostly of himself with his arms wrapped around other women!  I wonder what his wife's page is like?  Oh, & my sadly misguided SIL just had her 2^nd baby by a different man (both fathers also impregnated another woman within a month of impregnating her...yeah) & is getting drunk several times a week & also smoking pot around her kids!!!!

WHAT are these parents doing?  WHY aren't they taking their roles as parents & spouses seriously?!  Why aren't they taking care of themselves?  They are almost all 30yo's & up, when will the college-aged partying stop?  Or is it that they are just trying to impress other people with how "fun" their lives are?  If that's all it is, I for one, am not impressed.  What impresses me is a solid loving marriage, respect for yourself & your family, parents who are striving to do the best they can at raising their kids in this crazy world & people who strive to be good Christians!

I don't know, I'm probably being too judgmental.  I guess it just makes me sad, more than anything else, to see this behavior.  One thing seeing this stuff from them does do is make me very grateful for all of my blessings.  Sometimes I wonder if DH & I were the only sane ones in the city where we grew up, lol, & I think how lucky we were to find each other & get out!  All I can do is pray that these former friends will find their way & continue on my own.  :)

[Mommy2Taylor54]

Oct. 5, 2009 at 12:52 PM

You're not being too judgemental. I find myself doing the same thing. Since my husband and I dont get date nights, we take turns and go out with our own friends. Now keep in mind, these are friends who have kids, etc and who we trust each other with.  We dont do it a lot maybe once a month each. But I hear ya. I had a girls night about a month ago and there was a bunch of married men trying to hit on us.  They had kids of their own!  I could NOT believe they were trying to do that.  My friend had to literally hold me back from punching the dude then stealing his phone and calling his wife and telling on him.

But yes, I agree. Unfortunately, it is a huge decline in our society and it's been going on for quite some time. My sister fits the profile. I've called CSB and had her kids taken away from her multiple times.  But they keep giving them back, so I had to cut the cord from her.  I dont talk to her. I cant, I'd kill her. 

But I'd tell you, as long as you are being the best spouse/parent you can be, is all that matters. Our kids will excel in loving families and that's all that counts. We cant save everyone :)