Grandma at Delivery?

[mammacjjc85]

So this is sort of just to vent, but I would like a little imput as well.

I am almost 31 weeks pregnant and live nowhere near my family.  My mom is wanting to fly to my grandma's when I let her know as soon as anything happens as far as labor...and they are both driving from there which will take about 4 hours (my labors have usually lasted about 8 hours in the hospital alone).  My problem is that when I last spoke to my grandma, I had confronted her about calling my husband a maniac from how he used to be over 2 years ago.  Since the incident she is referring to, we have both found Christ and got married (before we were just together with a couple kids...).  When I confronted her she denied that she had called him names and said that she hates him and will never like him.

My 3 y/o son tried saying hi to her within an hour of this happening and she told him that he had better ask me if he could talk to her.  When I heard her say this, I told her that "if she was going to be that immature, she (you) could go home" (since she was babysitting my brothers and sister whom I was living with at the time.)  This was done in March 2009 (this year), and she still has not spoken to me, though I have tried apoligizing for calling her immature.  Also, on that day, she "canceled" our "friendship" on myspace (which wasn't that big of a deal to me, but showed me that she was really mad at me).  She has yet to add me back to her friends list, and has not made any attempt to apologize to me or my husband for what she said about him.

I don't want to cause problems, but I really don't know that I want her around my house, or me when I'm in the hospital, and I deffinately don't want her babysitting my kids while I am in labor.  I'm wanting some input as to whether I should tell my mom that my grandma is not allowed or if there is something else I should do.

P.S.  Mom says that they are only staying for 3 days (if this helps your decision a little better.)

[CloudWeaver]

Sep. 9, 2009 at 9:14 PM

Well I understand where you are coming from. If grandma hasnt yet agreed to end the arguements and etc thus forgive for past transgressions, then she should stay out of your house. Yes you would be the bigger person to let it go and have her back into your life, yet you need to let her know you are also an adult. Knowing you do make mistakes and can own up to them. So bless her and let your Mother know what is what. Wishing you the best in this in whatever you do decide.

Good Luck!:)