Family Drama

[mommymandaleigh]

When me and my husband moved closer to our jobs my father asked if he could move in with us and get on his feet. (he has been homeless on and off and is bipolar and is an extreme alcoholic) I of course feeling bad said yes. We made and agreement for him to pay 1/3 of rent and utilities, and to help out with gas and groceries when needed. Which I think is more than fair. He started to get lazy right from the start by not going out and looking for a job. We let him be for 1 month and at the end of the first month he still had not found a job. I sat him down and told him he needed to have a job by the first of the next month or he was out. Fine. He found a job working nights as a stocker not far from where we live. I don't trust him enough to take my brand new car so I took him back and forth. Everything was going fine he got all paid up in the bills he owed us for. Except for I noticed every time he drank he would try and start a fight with me and get really snotty with me. I had finally had enough this past weekend and told him to get his shit and hit the bricks. That is just the short version. He always emotionally abused me as a child and a teenager and was hardly ever there along with my mom who just wasn't ever there. I refuse to be taken advantage of. I let him move with us to improve his life b/c I did not want to see him die on the streets. He refuses to help him self. I feel guilty knowing that it will be getting cold out very soon, but I couldn't take the stress of him being there and not helping out around the house. I never asked for much and was more than fair on all the bills. He thinks the world owes him. He has been living on and off the state since I was 15 which I don't even know how b/c I went into foster care when I was 15 and stayed in the system until I was 18. I just can't help but feel guilty. I know it was for the best. I don't want him to be around my daughter when he has been drinking, b/c god only knows when he will flip out for good. It has been so peaceful around our house since he has been gone and I think that I made the right decision on this one. I know I did. Just needed to get all that out of my system. I hope that someday he decides to get a life and take care of himself. I know that it probably won't happen. He has already lost his job.....oh well it is in gods hands now.

Tags: alcoholic, dad, guilt, peace

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