"Aggressive Birthmother Outreach Helping You Adopt A Beautiful Newborn Baby..."

[onethentwins]

You think that adoption agencies don't actively search for pregnant women so that they can sell them the "adoption option" and make money from adopting out her baby? Think again!

Here is copy from an actual adoption agency website. I will not provide a link and I have removed their name because Lord knows I'll not advertise for them:

:: Aggressive Birthmother Outreach Helping You Adopt A Beautiful Newborn Baby...

We are results driven!

 Unlike many state-regulated adoption agencies, **** is not confined by stringent state-mandated budget restrictions. This means **** can advertise and market more aggressively to quickly present you with an adoption opportunity.

Most adoptive couples were selected by a birth mother in less than four months of being marketed*.

Here Is How We Will Help You Adopt A Baby:

• **** places extensive Nationwide Internet advertising specifically targeting suitable Birthparents knowing that the Internet is the most widely used medium of this demographic.
• Millions of dollars spent on Birthmother advertising annually.
• Aggressive grassroots marketing and outreach programs to reach other birthmothers who might not otherwise find us through more traditional forms of advertising and marketing. We market to:

Maternity Homes Family Planning Clinics Crisis Pregnancy Clinics Hospitals and Medical Clinics Teen Pregnancy Programs Church Groups Chat Rooms Civic Organizations

Abortion Clinics Bulletin Boards Pregnancy Hotlines Physicians Community Referrals Social Workers High Schools, Colleges and Universities

This is just one website, one example, go ahead and google other agencies. And, do you think that once they've gone to all this effort and spent their "millions of dollars anually" on finding women and teens in crisis pregnancy, people they label "birthmothers", that they aren't going to be just as "aggressive" to get them to place? I bet they know every trick and manipulation in the book.

[bellacocco]

Sep. 13, 2009 at 5:54 PM

***Most adoptive couples were selected by a birth mother in less than four months of being marketed***

And this is said about living, breathing human beings. We market for cars, houses, food, movies, vacations, etc . . .

But for unborn babies.  That is sick and wrong!!!

It was one of their marketing brochures, given to my high school, handed to me by my school nurse that first brought me into the adoption agency.

The brochure promised to give me information to help make a decision what was best for my child.  And yet, the information I received was how great adoption was.  How it was the loving, unselfish choice.  How my child deserved more than I could give and how I would be giving a gift to some couple who desperately wanted a child of their own.

As for parenting, it was presented as the "selfish" option.  I was selfish and wrong when I told them I knew my parents would help me and my child.  I had shamed them, the rest of my family, and my friends, by becoming pregnant at such a young age.  I was a statistic who would ruin my child, neglect him, maybe even abuse him, if I raised him myself.

This is where the marketing takes pregnant women - into their doors where they can then be "shown" just how great adoption is and how "terrible" they will be as a parent for their own child.

[rainfalls]

Sep. 13, 2009 at 6:13 PM

This literally made me feel nautious reading this...

 

[drfink]

Sep. 14, 2009 at 1:13 AM

To do this to humans,reducing vulnerable women to simply a way to make a profit.This is sick,

[Southernroots]

Sep. 14, 2009 at 1:53 AM

Of course, I know the agency that you mean.  When I first saw their website, I was shocked beyond belief.  I still  can barely believe that they are allowed to exist.  Bragging that they spend over a million dollars annually on "birthmother advertising" is unreal. 

And people say that women always go to agencies? Some young women still get info on adoption at their schools.  Besides, even when women go to agencies, they go not to sign up but to get some "help" with their options. Unfortunately, the only "help" many receive is adoption counseling, NOT options counseling.

[ceejay1]

Sep. 14, 2009 at 10:17 AM

I am truly and utterly saddened.  :(  :(  :(  :(   I wish more people from ALL the triad were able to see this!  C.J.:(  :(  :(  :(

[ISAIAHMOM632007]

Sep. 15, 2009 at 11:50 PM

crisis pregnancy centers that I know do not do his, a s a counselor I would rather a woman parent her child then any other option. 

[SalBac]

Nov. 15, 2009 at 8:17 AM

I feel sick.  Really sick. My experience with adoption is so NOT that.. it took me a while to realize how much corruption surrounds adoption. I'm an adoptive parent (twice) and I truly don't understand how any Aparents can be at peace about adopting with coercion. How can you look at your child and know that you TOOK her or him from their first mother? I suppose you have to convince yourself that you deserve to have what you want at any cost, and scr** everyone else.

The sad joke is on those parents in the end, although chances are they never realize it. Our kids' first mothers are so important to our whole family... they add a dimension and a depth of love that we wouldn't have without them. Everytime I see my kids with their first mothers it's like a love fest all the way around. I can't even describe the joy. It's a gift that will never be known to people who adopt with coercion.

Sad, sad, sad...

[MiddletonFamily]

Dec. 17, 2009 at 1:53 PM

My husband and I are planning to adopt and so far we haven't found an agency we like, I personally think the aggressive searches should be banned. It's just not fair to the birth mother to be under that much pressure. I don't think that I could sleep at night knowing that a birth mother gave her child to me under that much pressure. I would much rather take my time and wait for a birth mother to find me. I must add the reason I am so passionate about adoption is because I was adopted and my birth mother had told me everything about her choice and how she missed me but she knew she did what was best. My birth mother has no regrets and I pray to find a birth mother just like mine.