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just venting :P
- Sep 13, 2009 at 7:51 PM
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ok i will start with this i was looking at the pics on by bfs phone and i saw a pic of this girl he has been friends with for a long time she is a lesbian, well she took a pic of herself in a bikini and sent it to him i guess i don't know why if you are a lesbian you are sending some guy a pic like that and then he kept it i just have a weird feeling about her and i talked to him about that feeling and he said that im getting mad over a lesbian well some of the fowards that she sends him is weird to love ones like what you pick if it was you me and my bed just weird stuff like that he said that he thinks of her as one of the guys but would any of your other guys friends be sending you pics in there swim suits i don't think so send him love forwards so idk what to think about it i just keep my mouth shut about it so he doesn't get mad......
anyone have any thoughts about it just little stuff like that gets on my nerves i am not a very confident person so im sure its not nothing but i just wanted to see what you guys think
thanks billie
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no he is not violent at all just gets upset that i think that that i get "Jealous" over a lesbian and i did talk to him about it but his brother was there and he got upset and that was the end of it all he said o great now i have to hear about this forever so i just leave it be and if i asked him how he would feel he would say that he doesn't care but i know he does because he is always asking me who i am talking to on the phone and texting but i do that to so even though he says he doesn't i know that he does i guess i don't know what to do i want to text her and ask why she is sending pics like that to him i just dont understand send them to other girls if you are such a hard core lesbian not to MY bf i don't care how close you are and i don't know why they are still friends she stopped working with him and she stopped all contact with him and like 4 months later he asked her to come over and i didn't like that at all i don't like people treating him the way she did so i am not her biggest fan at all but and i kept telling him why do you want a friend like that but for some reason he does so that gets me thinking what is so special about her that he would want to be her friend so bad i just don't get it? thanks for the comment
did you ever think she might be bi? I know some that say they are a hard core lesbian, but they are also bi-sexual.
yes i have thought of that and i even asked him and he said that she is not but who knows its it bad that i think about this too much that it bothers me?
No! I think you are trying to protect your man. I'd be trying to find something to protect mine. I did once. His mistress called me to let me know they were having an affair (she was so considerate...not). Anyway, I talked to her on the phone...hysterically, telling her to leave my husband alone. Then, I kept going everywhere with him. Through the course of about 3 months, I started thinking, "Why am I doing this? He's not a child and if he can't be trusted, then, he's not worth it." So I quit riding with him and stayed home with my children. It was really hard at first, but I had to trust God to just give me peace of mind, or I would have gone crazy. I started spending all my energies on my kids. It helped me not to focus on him not being there...which he would sometimes stay gone for 2 to 3 nights. He loved to gamble. In the end, he got mean and abusive and I did end up leaving. But not till I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt. I stayed with him for 2 yrs. I think he prolly was mad that I knew his little secret and blamed the whole thing on himself but took it out on me. Try and give him the benefit of the doubt, before you do anything rash. I would make sure I was the best wife and did everything I could to make sure when he was home, he felt his needs were all taken care of. I made him a king in his castle. But I know he respects me somewhat still, even though we never see each other. I worked at saving my marriage, until I couldn't live in the abuse any longer. If he's not abusing you, please, try and make him happy whenever he's with you. Trust him. If he says there's nothing between them, then, don't bring it up anymore. Just make him happy. If he sees that you prefer him above all else and you don't care about this lesbian...that you trust him....he should come around. One thing my brother told me is guys don't understand our jealousy, esp. when they aren't trying to make us jealous. So try, consistently, to just be very attentive to him and his needs. Trust him. Then, if you've made a honest and long-term relationship with him, he may see you in a different light and appreciate the fact that he is the most important person in your life and that he could never get someone like you. Men are so egotistical and if we feed it, it makes us look better. Jealousy makes us look weak and not in control. I hope you can find him as your true soulmate. Don't give up and maybe the lesbian will! Hope the best for you! (A good book is called "Tough Love" by James Dobson of Focus on the Family. I think you can call them at 1-800-A- Family. You can ask them any kind of questions. Its free and they will give you good advice. They have been in the business for many years. My friend swears by them.)
Sorry I kept saying husband, but I meant your bf. Also that Focus on the Family keeps everything confidential and you do have to tell the gist of your question to the main switchboard so they can direct your call to an expert that deals with that specific question. Hope this helps. Oh and if he doesn't really care about her pic, stick it in a drawer somewhere under a bunch of stuff, so he can't look at it and you can forget it. :-)
forget what I said about the pic...lol...I just remembered you said it was on his phone. Hopefully, after you start giving him all this attention, he'll see the need to delete it. But who's maybe they are just friends and there's no need to worry about it.
thank you 1Daughter5sons i will just stop worring about it and see what happends down the road i will not leave over a pic just wondered if anyone else thought that was wierd thanks for the comments will post more if something else happends
thanks ladies
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You seem really calm about this whole thing. I would be more than a little upset, lesbian or not. The behavior is not appropriate and you need to stand up for yourself!! Unless he gets violent when mad (and in that case you need to leave), then tell him how you feel. If an argument ensues, so be it, but he needs to know how you feel. Don't be a doormat. Ask him how he would feel if another guy was sending you suggestive material....
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