Why I am a terrible person (or at least by some standards) *Rant alert!*

[Mrs.BAT]

By some of the standards of the bitchy anons here on CM (and some people who aren't too cowardly to show who they are), these are some of the reasons why I am a TERRIBLE, low life, white trash, piece of shit excuse of a person:

I sought help when I needed it. My husband hasn't been able to find a job, but he's trying to get one working with VDOT that's 40 hours a week, $12 per hour, for at least 2 years (because of a new highway project). I've been working minimum wage, part time, trying to survive on $600 or less a month (before taxes) for the past 6 months or so. When it got to the point (at the end of July) where we had sold everything we could and we were going hungry so we could feed our baby, I signed up for food stamps. Hopefully, hubby will get this job so we will have only been on stamps for about 3 months or so.

I have WIC for my daughter. I had a terrible reaction to the Mirena IUD and lost my breastmilk when my baby was 3 months old.  I couldn't afford to have the IUD removed, and before having it placed I had never found anything that said it could effect breast milk. After spending a good portion of our tax money on trying to get my supply back (before we discovered the link between the loss and the IUD), and being unsuccessful, I gave in and signed her up for WIC when she had to go to formula for good.

I had a baby when I was young. I was 18 when I had my daughter, one week shy of 19. I had been married for 3 months when I got pregnant, and we were using birth control. She was a blessing in diguise (I didn't want kids and we were both in college), because she helped me and my family through my dad's passing last year, right before she was born. I intend to go back to college as soon as we are more financially on our feet and will pursue a degree in nursing so that I can transfer to a college of midwifery.

My daughter has been on formula since she was 3 months old. (See WIC description for details.)

I'm not a Christian. I found peace and happiness in Paganism and witchcraft. It fits with me and clicks with my soul.

I'm a supporter of natural birth and not using unnecessary interventions (that doesn't mean I'm anti-everything "unnatural," just that I don't think that doctors should use as many interventions as they do when they aren't medically necessary).

Oh I'm sure there are many more, but those are the ones I could think of right off the top of my head. Had to vent a little about the ignorant, judgmental, hypocritical people that I've had to deal with, without calling any names. To those people who have criticized me, I would flip you off and call you bad names and talk badly about you, but I like to use my energy for trying to help people and make them feel better about themselves.

[Damali0812]

Sep. 14, 2009 at 1:57 AM

None of these things sound bad to me. No wonder my breast milk supply was so low with my second, I had an IUD placed a month after i had her.  DH and I were on food stamps for like a year becuz yes we were that poor plus both my kids have been on WIC they were babies and stay there till they are 5 yrs old. Which for my youngest will be this November.

[GaMomx3]

Sep. 14, 2009 at 8:44 AM

I hate that you are having a rough time right now. You are not a bad person because you have hit a speed bump on the road of life. Hang in there it will get better.