I'm so tired of fighing with my husband about the same shit every single week....help me with our home and our children. We've been fighting the same arguement over and over and over for the last year or so and I'm just exhausted. I have no more emotion left for this topic. I'm not asking much really. I do understand that being a stay at home mom means that keeping the kids clean and healthy and the house neat is my responisblity but I only wanted 2 children. I don't want a third especially not a 25 year old child. I really am not asking for much, if he knows I've had a bad week and it got a little too messy clean something up. If I'm feeling sick, take the kids and let me get some rest. After dinner put his dishes in the sink and help me clean off the table. When he gets undressed throw his clothes in the vacinity of the laudry basket so that on laundry day I'm not wandering around the apartment looking for all his clothes. I want him to put his paycheck in the bank the day after he gets it so I can pay the bills and grab me some quarters while he's there so I can keep up with the laundry. I want him to wake up at a resonable time so he can spend time with his sons. (He works nights). I don't really think I'm asking too much. It's just part of doing your share in a family correct? I take all other responsiblity. I'll dust and vaccum and do laundry and dishes and care for our children. I just want a little bit of help. And he doesn't help at all. I was really sick yesterday and he went and helped his father with a job then came home changed his shirt grabbed a snack and took off again to go to work...like WTF I was sick and had both the boys home yesterday with no help whatsoever. So we got into a huge fight over the phone while he was at work yesterday. I told him he needs to start helping out or get out. And I think I'm justified in saying so. What he doesn't know and I'm not telling him is he has a month to start showing some sort of improvement. I gave him all sorts of examples of what I want him to do so he knows exactly what I'm talking about. I'm not telling him he has a deadline because I don;t want him to help out for a month then quit. I want him to help out every single day because he wants to because I want him to.(I think that makes sense). I have a lot on my plate right now. I'm in school full time and doing all online classes which is really hard and I stay at home with a 4 year old and a nearly 1 year old and I never get to spend time with him because he sleeps all day and works all night. Litterly all day he normally gets home from work around 3-330am and he'll wake up around 4pm. Meanwhile I'm up at least 2 a night with one kid or the other and I get the 4 year old ready for school, drive him to school 20 minutes away, do all the house work and shopping and care for my 1 year old and then go and pick up my son from school and make dinner, bathe them and put them to bed....all by myself. Somehow I try to squeeze school into all that and homework. There is no me time there is no real time to rest because I've always got something going on. I'm tired...tired of all the BS. He needs to start pulling his own weight. And he has a month to prove to me he can do it.

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Sep. 16, 2009 at 6:47 AM

I hope he starts helping you I out. Trust me I know how you are feeling. J is the same way AND I work full time. Good luck!

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May. 2, 2010 at 11:35 PM

that sucks hope it works out.

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