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Do you think it rude of me???
- Sep 16, 2009 at 1:37 AM
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I have been getting an unusual amount of friend invites lately, and it is...well, just strange to me. I have been on CM for a couple of years now, and it is a little odd. I have denied some friend invites in the past because there is no message and when I go to their page, they are just barely on CM with NO activity. I let the invite go for a while, and when I see no more activity for a while, I deny. Well, I got another one today and I just responded "why have you asked me to be your friend....I hope you understand my questioning" I have some reasons to question people's motives, and some of you know them. I don't think that .....well.....
The skinny of it is...do you think that it is rude of me????? I mean, don't we need to have a courting at first???
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I dont think it's rude at all, I get lots of invites from people i have never talked to and when i go look at their page to see if there is a common group or interest I find that they are moms looking to sell things or want me to buy into their work at home biz.
I am just as careful as you are its not rude or wrong, there is info about you and your family out there and you have the right to control who your friends are :)
Nope, it's your page, it's your preference whether to add people or not. The new 'generic' greeting CafeMom has added now doesn't help much.
I like to know WHY someone has requested me, or if we share a group together, I don't mind...
I don't think it's rude at all... I do the same thing :) There are too many trolls popping up anymore. I also don't really want to be "friends" with someone that I never have contact with. I don't do the "I have 5,893,254 friends" thing LOL...
And the bad part is, ever since I became a fan of CM on Facebook, it's been a double whammy! "Hey, I'm from CafeMom!" Uhh, sorry... do I know you??
What everyone ELSE said!
No I don't think it is rude. We talked a lot in groups before we became friends..that was sort of our courting. (btw glad to be courted by you!)
I get a lot of random requests and I noticed when I just accepted, there would be no "friendship"..so I would end up deleting them. Now I don't accept them right away or it is a quick deny.
Don't feel bad, if you accepted everyone then you would have jillions of friends and wouldn't really know a single thing about any of them.
I don't think it's rude. I've done it myself too. If they send the standard generic invite that says we have things in common but I see nothing on their page that makes me feel that way I have to ask. I've have a few where their pages are private so how can I confirm our commonalities? So no asking for "courtship" is not rude. We're not here to "collect" profiles we are here to make friends. Right?
Thanks girls....I was hoping you'd see it may way~ ILMAOOOOO~ Oh and Bean, I love you~~~~
No, not rude. It is a great conversation starter :)
Nope, do it all the time. And when I do, let someone in without the "first degree" I end up deleting them because they never respond back to the "hello" chats. I will not be a part of someones "friends farm." With that said, time to go weed. lol
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I did the same thing as you and had three wonderful new friends who took it the right way and one horrible lady who got terribly offended.
It's hard when somebody that you don't know, who you have never met or run into before asks to be your friend. If they can't handle a simple question asked by you, well then, maybe its better that you find out BEFORE accepting a request!
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