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Stay at Home Mom....
- Sep 17, 2009 at 9:35 AM
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Needless to say I'm a little peeved. Since when is a stay at home mom a bad thing? I'm so sick of people thinking stay at home moms don't do anything but eat and watch tv. My ex husband used to accuse me of that all the time. He would come home and ask, "Ok so what did you do today?" I always just wanted to scream, "Look around!" I should of started rearranging the furniture every day so he would come home to a different house every night. lol. And now after 8 years of being a stay at home mom I'm trying to work again and it is beyond impossible. Everyone sees "stay at home mom" and says..NOPE. Thats what really irritates me. Just because I stayed at home for 8 years does not mean I didn't work! I guarantee I did more than a lot of people with actual jobs!! I cleaned the house, I cooked 3 meals a day, I took care of the kids, I helped with homework, I did laundry, I took care of all the bills, I did our taxes, I called whoever needed to be called that day, and in my spare time I worked my butt off on my school work!! So people do not need to tell me I didn't work! I did my fair share, if not more so. Some people can go to work and focus on one thing a stay at home mom has to focus on many things throughout the day and most of the time it's more than one thing at once. We carry the weight of everything on our shoulders. Yeah the men get to go to work and make a living but I guarantee it was easier than what we do everyday. And yeah we get the luxury of being able to do what we want, when we want like play on the computer on our little bit of free time but we do work! I'm about to update my resume to show what all I did as a housewife and mother just to show what all it involves because I will be doing less at an actual job than I did as a stay at home mom! Stay at home mothers get a bad rap and it's ticking me off. I even worked with West @ Home while I was a stay at home mom but do employers see this...Noooo all they see was I stayed at home. And yes I know they want people with work experience and I have some, granted it's from 8-9 years ago but I have some. These 16-17 year olds out there getting jobs dont' have any work experience! It's just frusterating when someone as willing and ready to work as me can't get anywhere because I was a stay at home mother. You wait til my next job interview. lol. I just can't stand how people think we don't do anything, it's beyond annoying!! Do they think things just get done on their own? I took care of everything....EVERYTHING. My ex husband didn't have to do a thing but work and come home because I didn't want him to have to worry about anything so I took on everything else and that is not easy at all. So yeah, I think I'm about to do some updating on my resume because a stay at home moms are very misunderstood!
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Thank you so much! That was very sweet of you. And yeah I can imagine how much we would actually get paid if we could. It's not easy being everything. lol
Place on your Resume...Professional (at home) Home Decorator, Doctor, Nurse, Chef, Chauffeur, Maid, Waitress, Table Busser, Kitchen Help, Babysitter, Accountant, Bill Consolidator.
Then let someone say that us SAHM's don't do a damn thing. I know that there is more to add to the list. But I had a bad start to my day of being a Behavior Therapist and Referee, that my brain is fried.
LOL! Awesome!!!
I'm currently a stay at home mommy and I tell my husband that work is like a vacation to me because it is much more work being a stay at home mommy. Being a mother and wife duties is being able to handle many positions and tittles..
Oh crap! I have to go in to Bill Consolidator and Accountant mode in a bit.
It's HIS pay day...And MY bill paying day.
LOL!!!! Gotta love changing modes.
You were not a SAHM. You are a Domestic Engineer.
Visit: http://www.scribd.com/doc/1011274/SAHM-Resume
This will tell you what to put instead of putting other stuff.
For ex: Instead of Sibling Referee..to put "Calm under pressure".
Instead of" Getting kids to practice, school etc. on time>
put "100% attendance. In eight years I have never called in sick once, nor have I been tardy to scheduled appointments.
Also, according to salary.com http://www.salary.com/aboutus/layoutscripts/abtl_default.asp?tab=abt&cat=cat012&ser=ser041&part=Par481
If paid, Stay at Home Moms would earn $134,121 annually (up from 2005's salary of $131,471). Working Moms would earn $85,876 annually for the "mom job" portion of their work, in addition to their actual "work job" salary.
Thanks Steph!!
Hi,im a sahm looking to get back to work myself.I find that all the things youve mentioned are soooo true.Ive been looking for work but no-one seems to be hiring.Its also scarey for me because ive been at home for 10years.Im very rusty at interviews and knowing the ins and out these days.I was truelly in my sahm bubble(lol).
There was a time when I felt a little unappreciated at home,and thought of as a freeloader by others.I finally just put my foot down.I made up my mind that this is who I am and what I do....and who I am and what I do is alot(someone has to do it-and whom better).
I put 100 percent into my sahm position and held my head high.Now im seeing alot more appreciation ,respect,and even admiration!
Good Luck,Tia
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Good Morning,
And you are not alone. Many Moms have found themselves in this same position! I forgot where I read it but they had done research and came up with a cost to see what a stay at home mom would be per year and it worked out to be in the executive area!
I think the best thing to do is to go to the interview with a toin of self confidence because you were able to handle all of this pretty much by yourself.
Hmm, this is just a partial list of what you were:
Accountant
Planner
Cleaning Staff
Organizer
Referee (depending on the # of children)
Cook
Receptionist
This is just a few of the ones I can think of off the top of my head. You will get a job. Stay positive and have self confidence!! Show the world what we are capable of! :)
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