What would you do??? ( long)

[MommyTurtle1985]

 I'm sure a lot of you have been in a situation where somebody has asked you for help with their kids in one way or another.  Well, my particular story starts with my neighbors asking me and my DH to watch their two kids while the wife drives into town to pick up the hubby and bring him home.  It was intended to be 5 days a week at a set rate.

The first 5 days went by fine.  The eldest, a 4 year old boy, is a bit unruly, but that's ok.  The youngest, a 2 year old girl, isn't talking yet, so she is rather quiet.

Anyhow, Saturday my fam went and ran errands and what not.  Sunday, our typical lazy day, was met with the wife dropping the kids off at 9:00 saying that the wife and hubby were going to go in to town.  No phone call before hand, and no anticipation of us saying no, either.  My DH and I, being the folks we are, said ok and brought the kids in.

The following week went the same as the previous, Monday through Friday.  Then, Saturday, they had a soccer game to go to, conincidentally enough.  So, they dropped off - again, no call - the daughter at 5 and didn't pick her up til nigh on 11 that evening.  Needless to say, she fell asleep on our couch.

On Sunday, we had gone to visit my dad.  He lives 15 miles away in a neighboring town.  The neighbors knew that we were going, however, that didn't prevent them from calling us 30 minutes after we got there asking if my DH could leave to run the husband to  the airport - a 2 hour round trip.  They were a bit put off when we said no due to visiting and having our own plans.  (Oh, let me mention that the evenings during the week did keep getting later - at first it was 6, by now it was 8:30 or so.  Our kids go to bed at 7, and that gives my DH and I time to decompress.  I mention this because, with the late hours we kept the kids, my DH and I lost our time together.)  So, he got himself to the airport.

MONDAY........

The wife comes over around 2:00 and says that she isn't feeling well and wanted me to watch the kids.  I was ok with that.  Well, turns out that she had gall stones.  So, off she goes to the emergency room and we get a call from the hubby asking us to pick him up at the airport, he was coming home early to 'help' with his children.  We agreed, since it was a medical issue and we would hope somebody would do the same.  My DH picked him up at 1:00 AM and brought him home.  Since his kids were still up, my DH took them with him to pick the hubby up.

TUESDAY......

I had errands to run while our son was at pre-school.  However, 15 minutes into my errands, I got a call from the wife saying that her hubby needed help with the kids.  So, I start heading to the car.  Thirty miniutes later, I get a SECOND call - asking where I am and when I'm coming over.  Can you believe the gall????  So, I snapped at them for being pushy when I had stuff that MY family needed done.  Guess they got offended, we haven't heard from them since.....

Not sure what to make of all this.  We started out trying to help some nice people out, but lost all of our family time in the process........ So yeah they're not talking to me now. They're annoying little boy is in my sons pre school class and omg! I hid in the car, when i was picking up my son today i saw them coming out with they're kid and it was raining really  hard today. I sat in the car till they were gone, i didn't want to get asked for something else. I dont like comfrontations.

When i snapped at them, all i said is Im on my way, i got in a fender bender and after the fender bender was done with it was time to go pick up my kid. ...................What their problem?? I wans't trying to be rude i was just stressed and annoyed and kinda scared about my car. Hello, i dont have a million dolalrs to go get a new car. Some people are just un greatful. What is everyones thoughts?????

[Fordmomma]

Sep. 17, 2009 at 3:55 PM

they are totally taking advantage of your kindness

[his4ever05]

Sep. 17, 2009 at 4:08 PM

i agree you or your hubby needs to stand up for your rights as a family to say no to them , they are taking complete advantage of you and your family , don't take that sitting down.