My Husband is sooo Lazy!!

[mommymandaleigh]

I don't understand the point of me being married if my husband never wants to help out. I get so tired of being the one to do everything on my own. I love him more than anything (besides the baby) but it is like he has no ambition or drive in life. I will give him one thing I am not much in the kitchen and he usually cooks dinner every night, but I always clean the kitchen. I always offer to help in the kitchen even if I just shred the cheese (LOL). The one quality I cannot stand in anyone is laziness. There is no need for it. I realize he works forty hours a week but so do I. Then I come home play with the baby, clean the house, bathe the baby, read to her, put her to bed, do some laundry, and then I have a few moments to myself to unwind and then it is off to bed and repeat the same damn thing the next day. I get bored with my life too. How great it would be to just sit around for one night and not answer to the demands on my child and husband. I have tried to talk to him about it and I get the same answer "I'm not lazy, why do you always bitch at me?" Well maybe if you would find the motivation to get off your ass and help me out I wouldn't have to complain about doing everything by myself. I don't know what to do anymore. I want to leave b/c I know I can do it on my own and then it would be so much simpler just me and the baby to take care of. I really want him to contribute to this relationship and take part in helping me raise the child that we made together. Ugghhh I really don't know how much more I can take. He is a great guy. He makes me laugh and we have been together forever but I want an equal, someone who wants to help me out and not just hide in the background and watch me handle everything. You would think that he would feel guilty watching me run around the house every night and clean, take out the trash, I even do the damn yardwork. I have Saturday and Sunday off and on those days I manage to clean the house and still find time to take care of my baby. He is off on Tuesdays and Sundays. Tuesday he doesn't keep the baby home from daycare so he has no excuse for him not to do anything. He always says I'm tired well shit I'm tired too. Should I just let the baby go unfed and bathed so I can sit around on my ass too. I just needed to get this out b/c I am tired and sick, and I know when I get home from work I will be the one taking care of the baby and entertaining her and I just want to have one damn day off without even him around. I feel a little better now but damn..if he doesn't pick his ass up and start helping I am done and I will be moving out on my own.

[brownsugar342]

Sep. 18, 2009 at 4:55 PM

hey hun i hear yah! i think i can count on one hand how many times my h helped me with the kids, he said, well ur home thats ur job.... really... and then theres a shit load of other things as well... we are not appreciated, and i feel we are taken advantage of...... be strong girl....