Down in the dumps

[sweetpea1217]

I feel so depressed right now. I feel I am about to have a mental breakdown at anytime. My husband stays at home with the baby, he can't find employment around our house, while I go off to work as a Marine. I go to work then come home only to take care of the baby. On the weekends hubby gets to have some time off while I take care of our daughter. Sometimes he gets to go on weekend retreats to airsoft games in our state, hangs out with his buddies who are also into airsoft or plays xbox 360 at some other friends house. We hardly have money to pay bills and such but when we do its either put towards his airsoft business he is starting up or bills. He is always saying you gotta spend money to make money. I understand that with starting a business. I feel so depressed because hubby gets to do all these things and get away from baby and I. Since she has been born, 6 months now,  I haven't been able to get away from him or the baby to enjoy myself and relax. Its really getting the better of me. I don't know what else to do other than nag to him that I need some time away but I don't think he understands.

[bridgeh2o]

Sep. 20, 2009 at 12:49 AM Oh..I'm so there w/you! I work every other wkend 48 hrs straight. Other than that, I'm home. All day every day. My babies are 5 & 11, so they are both in school now. BUT, my fiance works 2nd shift, so he's home during the day! I never have me time! I'm gonna start taking it tho. Once a month. Get a mani or a pedi. Something 4 me! Hope you can do the same!

[SuzyQ515]

Sep. 20, 2009 at 2:35 PM

I know what you mean. I am a special ed teacher so not only do I work at school, but I bring my work home as well. Plus I'm in the last semester of my master's. I have 2 kids - ages 2 and 3 - who are independent, but I can't always put a movie on them while I do dishes. My husband is a restaraunt manager and he "is so tired" when he comes home, he hates to do anything. Try talking to him and telling him you need a break...see what he says to that. Plus, if he is spending all the $ on his business, he needs to give you a little so you can get ur nails done, buy a shirt, something for yourself.

[DeliberateMom]

May. 24, 2011 at 12:09 AM

Sorry to hear things have been so tough. You need time for yourself. Make yourself an itinerary for a day and let him know what you're planning to do and on which day. You don't even have to spend a lot of money to have a day to yourself. Coffee and a good book in a serene location can do a world of good.