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There shouldn't be so much guilt in the struggle.
- Sep 21, 2009 at 11:22 PM
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I'm trying to beat that through my own thick head tonight.
But there really shouldn't be. I read a post tonight from an anonymous mom who wants to lose weight and it made me reflect on my OWN situation. I think she posted anonymously because she was embarrassed about her weight and thought someone might put her down; I think that she should be proud of wanting to better herself. I am currently trying to quit smoking, but I haven't told anyone outside of my close knit group of friends because I was embarrassed to admit that I smoke in the first place. So while I was giving this anonymous mom the advice to be PROUD of herself instead of embarrassed, I am doing the exact same thing.
I wish we could all just start being more open about these things with each other. Maybe people WOULD get the support that they need to better themselves or change bad habits sooner rather than later if these things didn't have such a stigma attached to them. Whether you're trying to eat better, or have more patience with your kids, or quit smoking....or you're trying to do better, or be better or even just KNOW better...I think all of that is something to be proud of, isn't it? I mean we've pretty much established that none of us are ever going to achieve perfection even though for some reason we still try to hold out for that standard sometimes. I know that I do. I guess that just sets us up for disappointment because in the human condition that's just unattainable. Doing the best that you can and making sure that you're always learning and trying to do better is really all that we can strive for. We're all going to slip and fall but as long as we're still climbing UP instead of down (even if they're really itty bitty steps) then we should be proud of ourselves. So many of us achieve amazing things on a daily basis, even in the face of adversity.
This is turning into a big ramble, I'm just thinking out loud. Don't wait until you're the exact person that you want to become to be proud of the person who is trying so hard to get there. Does that make sense? Good. I tells it to myself now. :)
Tags: therapizing myself
Comments:
Congrats on your mission to stop smoking! =D That's great!
The one thing I'm working on right now is keeping my husband more informed of my son's day and being patient with everything! lol. I didn't realize my husband was so out of the loop until a conversation we had earlier today. And I've always been impatient. Now with autism and pregnancy thrown in the mix I've got to have more patience than ever.
I think everyone is working on something (no matter how small) to try to better themselves. Maybe your journal will open more eyes.
That made perfect sense sweetness !! BETTER TO HAVE TRIED AND FAILED THEN TO HAVE NEVER TRIED AT ALL .. Keep climbing that mountain until we reach the top of what we feel will make us the happiest person we can possibly be .. great journal great thinking ...
Just when I think that you can't get even more awesome, you write something like this!
This thought is why I am now much closer to actually being the person I want to be!!! Way to put it!! And thanks for the reminder...
You know how proud I am of you for trying. Then you write this and I am even more proud of you. I am here to hold your hand.
xoxo
Katie, you inspire. You just do.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.. you are so strong!
I couldn't agree with you more. When we open ourselves up and make our struggles public, we do open ourselves up to criticism, but we also open ourselves up to the possibility of helping someone else with their own struggles. It is human nature to seek out people and situations we can identify with, so you putting you struggle out there will surely let someone else who is sharing your same struggle know that they are not alone. That is awesomeness right there.
*your struggle, not you struggle
Gah! Need edit button.
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That's why you have us for friends. My theory for life is that it's not what you've done, it's what you're DOING, and you should always be trying to do and learn better.