Ish keeps coming and I don't know what to do with it!

[angibrown]

 So, here is my story. I have been with my husband for 7 years, married for 2. We have a 4, almost 5 year old daughter. We have been going through stuff for about the past year. Last year, Labor Day weekend, there were some texts on his phone calling him sweetie and all that. I asked him about it and he said he didn't know who it was from and that it was because his friend used his phone. I called her and asked who she was and she said her and him had been sleeping together for a year. I confronted him about it and he said he didn't even know who her name. He then proceeded to call the number and it went to voicemail and he pretended that he was talking to her and used her name (which he said he didn't know and I didn't tell him) and was pretending to scream and yell at her. Then he was staying out until 5 in the morning every weekend. No calls saying he was going to be late, nothing. He always said he was hanging out with his boys or whateverI finally got sick of it and moved out. I was gone for 7 days. Things were okay for a couple of weeks, then he started acting sneaky again. So I checked our phone records, and he had been calling chat lines. He said he was just calling them to laugh at them. Seriously? And then he went out of town for the weekend to a reggae fest, which I was upset about to begin with because we didn't even have the money for him to go anywhere, but he was jealous because I got to go to Vegas and didn't have to pay for it. Anyways, the first night I was gone, there were multiple calls to a from a phone number that was some girl. She wouldn't tell me her name and she said he was with someone that she was trying to get a hold of and he said she was with someone that he was trying to get a hold of. Then he gets back form his little mini vacation and less than a week later there is pictures of his junk that he is sending to some other girl. When I asked him about that, he said he sent it to his cousin to see if I was going through his stuff. I am sorry, but that is just nasty to me. And then when i was on his email, she was online so I was chatting with her on yahoo messenger pretending to be him and she said she liked the email and that she wanted to come up to Seattle to visit him and f*** him. If that is your cousin, why would she say that? He said because she knew it wasn't him and she was just playing along. What the hell do I do?

[mothermayiam]

Sep. 22, 2009 at 1:47 PM

Get rid of him!  Too much mystery going on. You clearly don't trust him and I can see why.  He is playing you for a fool.  You deserve much better. Good Luck.