The word bitch is thrown around ALL the time. Not only are people constantly calling each other bitches, but women are calling themselves bitches and taking pride in it. Why? I cam across this picture on a friends profile (I hope she won't mind my using it) and I just don't get it.

There are multiple groups on this site alone just for "bitches". When the question Are you a bitch? comes up, so many answer Yes! And proud of it!  Now I know some women really are just catty, dramatic, mean and plain bitches. But a lot of the explanations for taking pride in being a bitch say something similar to this picture. I don't think these are things that make a woman a bitch at all. But there's the whole If that makes me a bitch, so be it attitude. WHY??? Why take and embrace this negative insult and let it describe your beauties?? Why strengthen the idea that strong willed women are bitches? Why is it that anything beyond kissing ass is considered bitchy? Women don't accept being called whores for not waiting til their wedding night to have sex. We don't accept being called bad moms for not exclusively organic feeding. We would never embrace these terms. So why bitch? Instead of giving in to the ignorant people who think that this is what makes a bitch, how about refusing the word and replacing it with something more accurate.


I stand up for myself and my beliefs

Is stand up for those I love

I speak my mind, think my own thoughts

or do things my way

I won't compromise what's in my heart

I live life MY way

I won't allow anyone to step on me

I refuse to tolerate injustice (this one really doesn't belong with bitch)

It means I have the courage &

strength to allow myself to be me

So try to stomp on me, douse my inner flame,

Squash every ounce of beauty I hold within

You won't succeed

And if that makes me a STRONG WOMAN & INDIVIDUAL, so be it

I embrace the title and am proud to be a STRONG WOMAN AND INDIVIDUAL

I'd take pride in being a strong willed individual long before letting some poorly assembled definition of an insult describe me. Wouldn't you?


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Sep. 24, 2009 at 3:21 PM

Beautifully put- since I have had children I have learned how to be the woman in that poem- and no I am NOT a bitch!! I am a strong woman who won't let people push around my family...


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Sep. 24, 2009 at 4:27 PM

im a bitch. 

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Sep. 24, 2009 at 4:41 PM

Shut up, Roze! No you're not! LOL

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Sep. 24, 2009 at 11:19 PM

Thank-You! I completely agree. I get invited to those groups a lot and I always politely decline. I am assertive and outspoken...I'm not a female dog!

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Sep. 25, 2009 at 10:29 AM

I wrote a journal very similar to this a few months ago.  Check it out, if you like.  

Voted popular.

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Sep. 25, 2009 at 11:24 AM

Totally agree.

Being catty, petty, judgemental, rude.. THAT is a bitch. These things are GOOD qualities. Most of them I happen to possess. I am not a bitch.

Voted popular. Thanks for addressing this. =D

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Sep. 25, 2009 at 1:52 PM

I dont really consider the poem as a bitch, just someone that will defend  themselve & their loved ones.  I consider a bitch  as a woman that always wants her way & complains all of the time.shrugging

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Sep. 25, 2009 at 2:14 PM

That's not my definition of bitch at all.

I agree with you.

A bitch to me is someone who buts into someone else's life and choices with judgement and insults.

Someone who only ever has criticism and only cares for themselves.

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Sep. 25, 2009 at 2:46 PM

It occurs to me that the traits that a woman might identify as "bitchy" and the traits a man might identify are not necessarily the same.  The above poem appears to me to be addressing the set of traits that many men might interpret as "bitchy".  Yes, I now that's a broad generality, and I will be the first to say I don't think all, or even most men, would, but enough to some basis for the Bitchology, I think.

I agree with the poster's sentiments entirely, but I also can see where the original ideas come from.


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Sep. 25, 2009 at 3:00 PM

I agree with laurelsmama...

Society at large views outspoken; independent; self sufficient women as bitchy (or even crazy in certain time periods)...rather than fight to change their closed minds; many of us say if that's what you want to call it fine by us but we're not changing who we are.  So take it or leave it.

I look at it sort of the same way the gay & lesbian community claimed the upside down pink triangle as a symbol to take away the negative connotations Hitler had created; etc...

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