Motherhood: The Club

[ciejsgirl]

When I became pregnant, I remember feeling as though I had entered into a whole new world of womanhood. I could now relate to certain women to whom I had previously had no connection, all because of a little life growing inside of me. When a pregnant friend would lament over the fatigue and nausea, I actually understood what she was talking about--my sympathy had morphed into empathy. I now understood the depth of that fatigue, oh, the plunging, never-ending, insatiable depths of pregnancy fatigue. Oh. Ohhhhhh.

When Alanna was born, that whole new world I had stepped into in pregnancy evolved into the new world of Motherhood, a world where I was immersed in diapers and late-night feedings and cooing and baby talk and toys. (In fact, I'm still here now!)  Just as my sympathy had morphed into empathy during pregnancy, that same empathy carried over into being a new Mom. Moms became my heroes. I thought I was encouraging and understanding of my friends who had gone before me and had children before I, but oh man, I was wrong. I had no clue. My respect for Moms flew through the roof, and my respect for single Moms or Moms of multiples flew through the roof, crashed through the atmosphere, and soared to outer space. The "just wait"'s I  had heard throughout my pregnancy began to come true. And not just the blow-out diapers or the spit-up. The LOVE. The INTENSE LOVE. Nothing could have prepared me for how much I love my little girl.

Not only was I immersed in the day-to-day tasks of Motherhood, I was also immersed with a new group of women. A group of Mothers. The concept of Mom's Clubs and such kind of made me want to break out in hives before I had a baby, but now, as a new Mom, I began to recognize the significance of such groups' existence. Moms need each other.  Sharing wisdom and sharing stories, laughing at each other and with each other.  CAFEMOM has been GREAT for this very thing.  I love all of my mommy friends here that have let me lean on them and ask questions.   I've learned that Motherhood is less about doing things right and more about doing things well.

Motherhood has not only brought me my precious Alanna Marie, it also brought me new friends. And I love them. Yet another unexpected blessing. :)

Thanks girls!

[SweetCherry79]

Sep. 24, 2009 at 10:14 PM

Im so happy for you and glad that your Daughter is finally here and she is healthy and she has a onderful Mom like you to look and care after her. I am always here for you Emily. Take care and I have learned as m Little one grew in age I began a schedule and we got on track, it should get a little easier. Hugs Emily~

[lasombrs]

Sep. 25, 2009 at 12:44 AM

I could not have put it better myself. I used to hate how my SIL constantly sent us pictures of her kids. Who cares I used to think. Now I am cramming photos down peoples throats. I knew I would love my child beyond belief since its how I feel about my pets, but I had no idea the real sense of willingness to lie down my life for him if I had to.

[MrsBeck]

Sep. 25, 2009 at 9:34 AM

Aww that was the sweetest post :)  I hope I will be able to join the Mom Club with you soon.  *hugs*

[momjoy1027]

Sep. 25, 2009 at 9:57 AM

Your post is beautiful!! And that's exactly how I felt too after becoming a mommy.

[Westbromwich]

Sep. 25, 2009 at 11:11 AM

That was truly a beautiful post.  It will get easier as she gets older and gets into her schedule.  The beginning is always hard.  Take care and enjoy your little bundle.

[EddiesMommy712]

Sep. 25, 2009 at 11:41 AM

That is such a great post!! I am glad you feel this way.  I know how hard it is in the beginning, but as others have said, it will get easier.  Before you know it they are walking, talking and causing trouble! LOL! Welcome to the mommy club, so glad you could be a part of it.
BTW Alanna is so stinkin cute!! You make me wanna have a little girl now!

[Angie.worth]

Sep. 25, 2009 at 12:45 PM

Aww  yeap motherhood is absolutely wonderful. it get easier on some parts and hard on others as you watch them  start to crawl and get in to stuff and then to walk and worrying about every  little thing they get in to.  You are absoultly  the greatest friend. Cause you were there when I truly need you. When athena was born

[GrowingMama]

Sep. 26, 2009 at 2:50 AM

I have so enjoyed getting to know you during your new mommyhood. Wasn't sure who I might meet when I signed up, but I'm glad it was you. Thank you for sharing so many of your questions with me. I have very much loved welcoming you and Alanna to the Club. And she's just beautiful! :)

[blessingAH]

Sep. 26, 2009 at 1:39 PM

You just made me cry...I will soon join the group!!! Yay!!And I am so glad to have you as my friend and as my counselor too!!! You are great!!!