I thank God every day that my daughter has no idea what the word stepchild means.  She only knows that she has two daddies that love her very much.  She also has no idea what "half-sister" means.  She only has sisters.  I am so thankful that my husband has never told anyone that he has a step-daughter.  He tells everyone that he has three daughters.  He tells her he loves her every day just like he does to our other two daughters.  I am so thankful that I was smart enough to fall in love with a man who fell in love with our daughter. 

I hear so many women on this site complaining about their step-kids, and they have every right to vent and complain, but it makes me so sad for these little ones who have no say in where they live, who they live with, how they're raised.  It just reminds me of what a wonderful guy I married.

Stepdad is another one we don't use.  He sure doesn't seem like a step-dad when he reads her her bedtime stories, or while he patiently taught her to ride a bike, or when they giggle together while watching the Phineas and Ferb marathon. 

He has been in her life since she was 6 weeks old and we started dating when she was a little over a year.  He adored her and loved her to death.  But, I was always worried that he wouldn't be able to love her as much as he could love his own biological children.  When we started to get serious enough that we were talking rings and babies he said something to me that I will never forget.  He says " I don't know if I want to have any more kids, because I'm afraid I would play favorites"  my heart just sank.  Even though I had been wondering about it, hearing it out loud hurt so badly.  Then he continued .... "because I don't know if I could ever love any other kid as much as I love Olivia."  That is the moment I KNEW he was it.  I'm sitting here tearing up 5 years later as I write this.  Because never once has he ever made her feel like she was less of his kid than our other girls.  He is the most amazing dad (yeah I said dad not stepdad) I could have wished for my daughters

Thanks for listening, and for any of you who are single, I pray that you find someone who will love your child as much as they deserve to be loved!


Here is my husband with all THREE of his girls!

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Sep. 26, 2009 at 6:00 PM

What a good daddy and a good man too!


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Sep. 26, 2009 at 6:02 PM

Thanks for your reply.  He is a really great guy!

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Sep. 26, 2009 at 6:29 PM You are very lucky.My dd calls my boyfriend dad even though we are not married.

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Sep. 26, 2009 at 8:44 PM

You have a beautiful family.  Your daughters are lucky to have such a wonderful daddy.

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Sep. 27, 2009 at 8:28 AM

thats perfection on parenting

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