A Mothers Nightmare

[KRYSTALxoxo]

I have been fighting for full custody or supervised visitation for my children for over a year. The only answer anyone would give me was I did not have a case until something happened. Where is our protection for our children. If you feel that your children are in harms way, why does the judicial system not have more laws to protect them. My ex husband, who has joint custody, is a drug addict. I could not get the court to order drug testing on him, because there was not enough evidence. WHAT THE? Most mothers are not going to ask for it unless they actually suspect it. So we waited for him to mess up. My daughter who is 6 was not able to testify in court about the things that she had seen. They argued that she didn't know the difference in a lie and the truth. So I held my breath every other weekend that I had to hand the kids over. Of course when I would drop the kids off, he would never be high. We would drop off and pick up at the fire department in front of police. It is unbelievable how people beat the system. Honest people don't have a chance.

It all changed last weekend. I dropped the kids off saturday morning at 830am at the fire dept. A cop was there and witnessed my ex's irate behavior. Nothing was done.  I kissed my babies good bye, and went about my day worried about them. 800pm that night, I got the call. They had been in a head on collision. I couldn't breath. It was the worst feeling in the world wanting to hold your babies and you can not get to them. We have the motherly animal instincts to protect our young and it was taken away from me. When I got to the acciden scene. I found my babies covered in blood with neck braces on the ground. My ex was laying there with them. The emt's were having to extract the other people out of their vehicle. It was a nightmare. My babies were okay despite bruises and cuts and sprains. As soon as I got my mind back, I looked at my ex and his eyes were rolling in the back of his head. He was high. I grabbed every cop that I could find and told them. They said they could not do a correct sobriety test on him due to him hitting his head and the force of the collision. We got to the hospital and later learned that the driver of the other vehicle had passed away. Her passenger in critical condition. So they issued a blood drug test on my ex. To make matters worse the couple that he hit was my new husbands relatives and they were on their way home that night from the funeral home. The last place her children seen her was alive at the funeral home never to imagine that would be where they would see her again, only it would be them making arrangements. Such a sad situation.

So now we wait on drug test results. I will never forgive the judicial system for not listening to my cry to protect my children. It took a woman losing her life, when it possibly could have been my babies. Now everyones ears are open and they want to charge him with manslaughter. That lady died to protect my children. I will always feel that way. God has a plan and he answers our prayers. Maybe not in ways we expect, and ways we wonder why. He knows the answers and that is all that matters. I know one thing for sure He was looking out for my babies that night because my daughter was in the front seat and my baby's car seat ended up front. It was not even fastened into the car. How they got pulled out of that car, it was only Gods will. I am forever blessed.

It could have been a situation that could have been avoided though if more people would have stood up and fought for they kids. I know one thing, I will go down with a fight before I EVER, EVER let the judicial system tell me to hand my children over for visitation again. PROTECT OUR FUTURE. WE MADE THEM FROM SCRATCH!!!

[knagsmom]

Sep. 27, 2009 at 12:11 PM

omg i cant even believe that they wouldnt listen to u. this is horrible im so sorry for ur family. god bless

[amont1297]

Sep. 27, 2009 at 12:27 PM

Thank god your children are OK.  It sucks when you know your right especially when its about your kids.  Unfortunately sometimes you could scream from the top of your lungs about the truth and no one really listens.  The important thing now is that your children are safe.  And I hope and pray to God that neither of you or your children have to be put through this again.  God Bless and take care