Cafemom help...with out doing a thing.

[Tnamari]

I feel like a Cafemom Veteran. I have been here a LONG time. I go MIA from time to time, but as long as there is a computer with in fingers reach - I log in everyday if nothing more to see if I have a message or chatter.Or to see if anything in my friends thoughts is bad (that way I can encourage, support, or if nothing else-pray).  I will admit when all the changes started rolling in -it became overwhelming- SO much to do on here-but yet sometimes when i can't find my friends I end up reading the popular journals. If I am in a group-I  often never get anything done because I am distracted by the links at the bottom (this is the only way I end up in "answers") . Sometimes the answers, or replies to the are more interesting than the post itself. And then you always have "the meanies", as heartfelt or well intended as a post may be, they are out there...waiting...lurking...to bring someone down. Which is why I don't post or respond very much. Of course I have seen a poster sit there and tear down every opposing reply-which kinda aggravates me sometimes (depending on the type post)...I guess I am one that will post a reply and rarely goes back to see the rest. (I shudder at the thought of being quoted lol,  then sometimes I just don't care).

Yesterday I had the need to post a poll/ journal/ question  whatever. Then I started hearing these mommy voices in my head. "what are you waiting for?" , "you are his Momma" , "I would have went down there yesterday" , "you are his voice". "If that was My child....." etc....and that done it! I no longer had the need to post- I knew what I had to do. I had to get dressed, go down to the board of education and get an answer to my questions-and I could not wait! My initial question was should I go- or just call...well we all know the difference between hearing someone and looking at them in the face. So to all the ladies who encourage and support,and even the ones who just don't candy coat what we need to hear -Thank You. I am a very indecisive person, and I'm kinda a push over, AND I had anxiety problems for years after I had my kids. The anxiety slowly diminished as I became more social here. Sometimes we know the right thing,we just need a little nudge...or a big kick in the rear.

My problem? My sons therapy at school had not started, and I found out last Monday. There are a few details in between Monday and yesterday. I spoke with the therapist and he will start Thursday. She never got any paper work and had no knowledge of his existence. I went to the BOE but the one I needed to speak with had just went to the elementary school. So I did too. I got all gussied up professional like -and yes-this is important on 2 levels-they know you are serious, and it builds self confidence-I had no anxiety yesterday. BUT I had to play chase around the school to hunt her down, in heals ... my poor pinkie toe suffered a huge blistering! All in the good of education!

one last note : OCTOBER IS DOWN SYNDROME AWARENESS MONTH

 

[Queenb03]

Oct. 2, 2009 at 9:51 AM

bravo bravo.... i hope you made your point... your son is very blessed to have you on his side

[mcqueenmom]

Oct. 2, 2009 at 9:53 AM

Way to go!!!!!!!

[Heather_F]

Oct. 2, 2009 at 10:38 AM

aww my favorite pic of the little guy!! Dang girl how come I didnt know about all this? Sorry I was MIA yesterday with a new mom wanting to interview then AB and I were off the Walmart the rest of the day. So you got it all straighten out? Good for you, way to pull out the big guns!! :)

[CMSM_Admin]

Oct. 3, 2009 at 3:26 AM

Awesome Tina. You can doooooooo it! Your baby is worth it (not much of a baby though)

[notlott37]

Oct. 3, 2009 at 10:24 AM

You just showed that mothers gotta do what mothers gotta do.  Your son should be proud to have you as his mom.

[SalemWitchChild]

Oct. 3, 2009 at 10:36 AM

Haha. CM Veteran here to!

I'm very glad you have overcome your anxiety to do what you need to do. :)

[quietside]

Oct. 3, 2009 at 12:39 PM

Good for you and your LO. I know how hard it can be, but we don't really have a choice do we?  Way to advocate momma!

[mom2hailie]

Oct. 3, 2009 at 2:17 PM

Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us moms. I just wish that more moms are as supportive as you are. I love coming to Cafemom and actually met a few nice moms in playdates outside of CM. But all in all most moms carry themselves high above everyone else. I mean if you don't have money, you are snubbed. If you don't fall in the right cliq or what have you, you are deemed unworthy of their time. So in short mom thank you for making at least one mom feel important just even its for a few minutes..

[PinkSodaPop]

Oct. 3, 2009 at 2:30 PM

Way to go! --- I don't know you, but I so totally know what you mean and can completely relate to your situation.

Just remember that all those 'meanies' are probably the way they are because they are so unhappy --- they cope by hurting others it would seem.
(Truly a sad thing when you think about it.) 



There will always be meanies out there ---Those of us that are not meanies just need to remember never to take any of their 'bull dookie' to heart.



"REAL" supportive moms ... ROCK!   *Smiles*

Great post ...

 

[Heather_F]

Oct. 3, 2009 at 2:57 PM

OMG you are currently #3 popular post!!!!!!!!!!!! WHOO HOOO go girl!