It's Ok...I won't bite! ;)

[MommasCooCoo]

My son on the other hand, ...He might!  LOL   No..seriously!  LOL

I am very happy to report a fine trip to Disney...and I have the bite marks, bruises and scratches to prove it. LOL

On arriving home...I have first on my agenda ... to send out an invitation of sorts to all of the other moms, Dad's and even the grandparents..out there...

I invite you to lend a helping hand or a word of kindness to a fellow parent.

When you see a person struggling with their children...and it has reached 'thee GOING POSTAL level'...reach out and say...."I understand, Can I help?"    If that parent refuses your good gesture...that's OK.    You know that you tried to help, right?  That alone should make you feel good !  :)

It is possible that on lookers wish to help, but don't know how to...Here are just a couple suggestions...

If the parent is trying to retreat out of an exit door...please..PLEASE...step out of the way...and even offer to hold the door for them!  It would be most appreciated. 

If the child has thrown objects to the floor...why not bend over and pick them up for this struggling parent?  Showing a little kindness is always welcome!  ;)

Maybe you are afraid to offer assistance...that you would offend the parent?  I know from my experience...When I receive comments of support...I am touched.  I may be the exception to the rule...but I don't bite when I am offered a helping hand. LOL

Many on lookers are aghast at seeing children act so out of control ...biting, kicking, scratching and screaming.  I understand !  It must look like an awful site. I scares me too...seriously!  LOL

Some people may judge and assume that the child is a brat and the parents have lost control...please look past these assumptions..This child and parent interaction may be more than you first think.

The child may simply be having or melt down(it happens!  LOL)...or they may have special needs.

My children 'look' completely 'normal'....you would or could never guess at their diagnosis by looking at them.    Many special needs children have undetectable differences.   Only those in the field can pick up the clues that they send.  Many  Parents of other special needs kids also have a good insight. 

When you see a parent in these situations ...Please offer patience, understanding and open hearts...don't be afraid!  ;)

What you are witnessing is a snap shot...just a flash of these families daily lives together.  If you take a moment and look into the eyes...YOU can see that this little devil child is really an angel trying to fight his way  out.  ...really....I promise!  LOL

When my child is raging...it is quite upsetting to everyone...especially him!  He completely melts after the episode is over...and cries uncontrollably.   Sometimes for hours.    It just breaks my heart...He will repeat over and over...'I am a bad boy...I am a bad boy"!!!!  I have tears in my eyes as I type this.  It just kills me!  Despite my best efforts to reassure him...He is crushed!   Usually he will cry himself to sleep...and then I rest too.  It is more than exhausting!

 

When you see a parent and child in this situation...Please take that moment...If you do, you will see ...a frustrated mom or dad who is trying (hard! LOL) to be patient and kind...trying to control the  uncontrollable !  But..Sometimes the best the parent can do is cope.

Sometimes you may see a not sooo patient and kind parent...Yep!  There are times when the parents are the ones who need to take the time out!  LOL   I have never met a perfect child nor parent....I only wish!  LOL

If you are a relative or friend of a parent who has child with special needs...be a hero!  Offer to watch the kids for a few hours, run an errand, take over a dish of food...They will thank you for it.

I know ...I would NEVER bite that helping hand!  ;)

 

 

 

 

 

 

....Life is good when we are kind to each other! 

 

 

 

 

[PinkBugz]

Oct. 7, 2009 at 1:28 AM

Great Advice