The injustice system ... and my co-dependant family.

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My mom just called me to let me know that my brother's charges have been dropped, completly ... no fines, no record, nothing.

About a year ago he went crazy on my parents.  He threatened to kill them and tried to kill himself (sorta) he held a pen (?) I think to his throat and was threatening to stab himself.  He ran out of the house while my parents were still in shock.  He found his girlfriend and beat her up.  It was after that altercation when he knew that the cops were looking for him that he decided to take a stroll in the fast lane on the freeway and wait for someone to hit him!

I don't remember how or when he was found,  but he spent like nearly a month drugged up in an insane asylum ... or whatever nice name you want to give it ... a mental health institution.  I still don't know what his diagnoses was, but they still have him on practically every prescription drug on the market, plus he's never fully walked away from whatever street drugs he was using (pot for sure, who knows what else.) 

He will be 21 next month and he's till living with my parents, not working ... and taking all of ONE class in Jr. College.  My parent's pay for his bus fare to and from school, they pay for his food and clothes and even when he wants to go to the movies with his girlfriend .. who yeah ... is still hanging around!

She makes me mad because when my brother was in the hospital the Dr.'s told her to leave him alone.  The reason he went crazy on her was because they were trying to break up.  I am sure there are many other reasons, my brither is unstable, and I do not blame her for him abusing her, that was/is (?) his choice.  I just wish she would have walked away when she had the chance.(LOL ... here it is a YEAR later and they are still 'friends' who do nothing but hang out together and moon over eachother and neither of them has the balls to actually get out of their disgusting relationship. It pisses me off that while he was locked up in there she didn't keep her distance.  He was in a safe place where he couldn't hurt himself and he couldn't even really contact her.  That was the chance for them to make a clean break.  And the ball was in her court.  Instead, she went and had the restraining order lifted!!!!!!

It's digusting to me!  It's horrible and messed up.

He is the baby of the family and the only boy.  He has had a sweet life.  My sister and I are older than him, my sister by 10 years and me by 6 years.  By the time my brother was embarking into crazy teenage rebellion, my sister and I were already married and with kids of our own.  I feel horrible about it, that I wasn't more of a friend to him.  And now we are not close at all.  But by the time he really NEEDED effictive parenting, my parents were more interesting in embracing their new roles of grandparents and my brother was pretty much left to fend for himself.

He neve had an consquences for his behavior.  He learned how to milk the system, my parents, his teachers ... he learned how to survive on nothing but the bare minimum of effort.  He is really smart and charming and funny ... he just doesn't apply any of it where it needs to be. 

And my parent's allow it.  That's the kicker, that's what is so disturbing.

When my mom called me today, she was relived that his charges are going to be dropped and the whole thing is behind them now ... ahm ... wouldn't you rather that he had SOME consequences for his behavior?  He's never going to move on and out when they are still paying his way for everything ... why whould he?  He has a cushy existance ... he eats food he doesn't pay for, lives in a 3 bedroom home he doesn't pay for, takes showers with water he doesn't pay for, gets dressed in clothes he doesn't pay for, to go out on dates he doesn't pay for, with a girlfriend who will put out even though he doesn't respect her ... why on Earth would he do any more work than he needs to?