suicide at age 12

[diane_eps_mama]

So a boy in my daughters class had committed suicide over the weekend. she is really shaken up about it. she did not think that kids her own age would do something   like that. after that she realized that i was not being over protective of her due to her depression and now she realizes but she has withdrawn to her room and i have no clue what to do.

[unsuspected]

Oct. 5, 2009 at 3:45 PM

Try to talk with her.  I've never had a 12 year old daughter, so I really have no clue.  But try to make yourself availible for her to talk to, LISTEN ... do more listening than talking.  She must be feeling so many feelings and she might need support.  I don't know if you are a woman of faith, but these issues are close to impossible for us to come to terms with.  Pray for her. 

My husband;s best friend killed himself about 2 years ago, he was 25.  I still don't understand.  I miss him.  And sometimes I am angry at him.  Suicide is one of the hardest things for anyone to even try to understand ... your little girlis only 12.  She's going to need some  help with it.

[mereinolan]

Oct. 5, 2009 at 3:50 PM

Definitely talk to her, not at her, but to her and listen to what she's saying. A good friend of ours killed himself in March...and I still don't understand it. But I've finally in the past few months been able to say that there wasn't anything I could do once he made that decision.

She needs you to be there, to listen and let her vent about it. Then remind her that it's not an option and help her work through all of it. Was it someone she was close to?

It's crazy these young young kids....so sad.

[MSugarKane]

Oct. 5, 2009 at 4:04 PM

Go to her and try to talk to her but mainly try to listen if she does start talking.  Sometimes just being with her, no talking is the best medicine.