Getting Out of This Emotional Battering, please help!

[mommytoots]

 I am a mom of 4 ( 2 teeners, 1 ten year old and the other 7). I was widowed 10 years ago and remarried 2 years after. This 7 year old is my child from my 2nd marriage. I met this man through intenet chatting, we both have the same race and citizenship. He is a bachelor..i don;t know what and how he had gone through, past relationships and his past life, after all, past is past. 

This man is such a jealous man. He works in the Middle East and despite the thousands of miles that separate us, he still has that feeling of jealousy, he wants to always control practically everything I do. 

His support has always been a great help since I have stopped and early retired from work, I have no other source of living but to dwell on his support, being my husband. And he feels I cannot live without him supporting me, which is indeed true at this point in time. But I keep on getting litanies of words, himself I guess being tired of sending us support, having had to suffer homesickness and loneliness..mind you, we met seven years ago, himself having worked abroad seven years earlier. And so, I just feel it's unfair to put the blame on me and my children. 

I am emotionally battered. Before I got married to this man, I basically had "everything"..house, lot, a "home" which I previously had made before him. I just feel that I can not take it/him anymore. I seem to feel like losing my dignity..I want to leave the children and find work abroad so I can have a way of living without depending on him. I have a trusted nanny whom I can leave my children to, besides, I live in a family compound where everyone can oversee the children while I am away. 

Do you think it is wise for me to leave for the sake of the children? I just feel I don't love this man anymore. I am falling out, maybe even if he is filthy rich. I can't ake the emotional battering anymore. 

Please help!

[MSugarKane]

Oct. 6, 2009 at 7:52 AM

Make a plan of action, and leave.   The plan might take a few months to unfold correctly, but do it .