I am a devoted wife, great mom and loyal friend. I am good at my job. I am involved with charities and various causes. I am an overall good person. I went to an evangelical Christian school for 6 years and was raised Catholic. I have always had doubts about the existence of god but about a year ago, I finally "came out" to myself and slowly to others as an agnostic and later an atheist. The response from normally tolerant and for the most part non practicing religious people has been shocking.

My husband regularly voices his dislike of the overly religious so I thought that telling him what I really believe would be easy but it has turned out to be quite the opposite. In the beginning he just didn't want to talk about it but now he makes comments about how I'm really not a non-believer, just bitter about my childhood or that I make excuses instead of giving valid reasons for my lack of faith.

If getting that type of reaction from my husband wasn't hard enough, the fact that co-workers are now spending time trying to convert me by saying how surprised they are that I can have gone through childbirth and don't believe in god or at least a higher being. When friends or co workers find out that I am an atheist, they look at me like I have a terminal, contagious illness.

I thought that in America we could be free to have any religion we want including no religion at all. I guess that's not the case. I don't dare tell my in-laws that I'm an atheist or they might try to have custody of my son taken away since I'm sending him with me on my trip to hell.

My husband and friends don't have a problem with liars, thieves, adulterers or mean people but if you are atheist... you've gone too far, it's the unpardonable "sin"!

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Oct. 6, 2009 at 9:37 PM

Great post..

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Oct. 6, 2009 at 9:40 PM

I'm sorry you go through that. As a Pagan, I know exactly what you mean. I too thought we were free to do a lot of things, but I painfully realized that we are only free to do the things that mainstream society agrees with. It is so sad, and makes me angry at the same time. I hope it gets better for you.



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Oct. 27, 2009 at 11:41 PM

I'm just curious, what did you mean by "free" - free of any consequences? 

You're not locked up in a mental institution are you? 

It's not easy sticking up for yourself no matter what you profess if it's different than other peoples' beliefs.  So what, I frequently have to defend my beliefs as a believer or suffer jokes, but all the same I am free.  

Free is not the same as easy.  Again, what kind of freedom do you want?  I was an atheist/agnostic for ten years, I was free all that time to be so.  Now I am free to believe again. 

Oh well, go join the Atheist moms group - you're free to do so!

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