Modesty? Just for Christians?

[babonwy]

I want my girls to be modest.

I feel with the Over-sexualization of women, I feel that its Good to teach Girls that skimp clothes are not a good way to draw attention to ones self....

Yet, when I mention this to family they say that its a "Christian" thing....I don't understand that!

Why wouldn't it be something thats about self respect?

[catwalksymphony]

Oct. 11, 2009 at 1:00 AM

Other. Modesty is for all who choose to be modest. Has nothing to do with religion, women, or anything. It is no more "becoming" than not being particularly modest. It just is. *shrug* Nor do I believe that to have self respect you must be modest.

[wntg1grl]

Oct. 11, 2009 at 1:05 AM

I think modesty is something to strive for in this day and age...you are surely set apart if you are modest!!  Knowing now that I will have twin girls (after 3 boys)...the thought of modesty has crossed my mind!!!  I think there is a certain respect given to women, and girls that goes unsaid....if you see 2 girls (twins for example) one dressed modestly, and the other not, there will be a preconcieved judgement of them both...this can and will be done with out intention.  I want my girls to be respected, and know that their bodies are a gift...not meant for the world to see.

[babonwy]

Oct. 11, 2009 at 1:26 AM

I know Personally If I see a girl dressed unmodestly My first thought is TRAMP!

I dont want my daughters being looked at that way......

(Original Poster)

[babonwy]

Oct. 11, 2009 at 1:28 AM

BTW I dont mean they have to be dressed From head to toe...

Just dressed in a Manor that isnt Revealing! Why do we need to have cleavage hanging out?? To Show off?? I would Rather my daughters be noticed for being smart women....Not easy women.

(Original Poster)

[eema.gray]

Oct. 11, 2009 at 2:52 AM

Religiously, both Judaism and Islam have strong traditions of modesty that apply to both men and women so it's definitely not a "christian" thing.  Christians got the idea from the rest of us, lol.

Here's what got me started on the road to modesty:  I used to work on a military post, in the Lodging Office.  I was basically a glorified hotel front desk clerk and I spent my entire shift, day in, day out, checking in and otherwise helping soldiers, most of whom were young, single, and male.  We did have a uniform and it was fairly difficult to be sexy in the issued uniform but that didn't stop that certain type of soldier from trying to visualize what was under the uniform and thus needing me to repeat *everything* multiple times.  So I bought different shirts, long skirts (just past the knee, not prairie girl) instead of slacks, and started covering my hair (a fairly extreme step but hear me out).  All of a sudden, I had their full attention.  They looked at my face instead of my chest and they paid attention to the information I needed to communicate to them.  

What I did for work eventually became habit outside of work and now I dress that way pretty much all the time.  It feels better; women look at me as a woman who probably knows what she's talking about and men treat me like a respectable, married woman, not some chick who could be an easy lay.