More about my cheater husband

[kimikylemama]

If you read my other journal about my husband cheating you can find out more about this.  I'm not going to repeat everything in this one though. 

Basically what my other one says, is that I found out in august that my husband of almost 5yrs(Oct 24th) has been cheating since right before the birth of my daughter(2yrs 2mos).  We had seperated, not due to this it was because he was lazy and thought that because he lost his license he couldn't work-bull crap!  He had been cheating even before we seperated, that was in 2007 around May.  I found hundreds of emails to and from him to other girls.  I knew about one girl and I was able to look past that and also that he thought he might have gotten her prego when were seperated.  But, when I(actually my sister in law helped with this because we are both nosey and have been reading his fb emails for a long time) found all the emails on his yahoo account.  I seriously couldn't believe what I was reading and seeing.  He even sent pics of his genitals to other girls and they sent him some along with boob shots too.  It was so gross.  These women weren't even pretty.  Who in their right mind would cheat with nasty women when their wife is(not to sound stuck up or anything) hot and skinny(100lbs, 5ft 7in-no I'm not anerxic, I've dance since I was 4 1/2 and still kinda do).  So, I confronted him about it and he only admited to sleeping with one woman and that all the emails were just talk.

So, I had gotten  tested back in August(and told him to do but never happend because he's a loser) and everything came back fine.  So, I went and had my yearly pap and std test(September).  My dr actually asked me if I wanted him to do the std test since his nurse practioner just did it a month ago.  I was like what the heck, I'm already here, you can just go ahead and do it.  So, I get a call from his nurse.  You know that's never a good thing when you just had std testing done and your pap, they always just send me a card in the mail in a couple of wks.  She tells me that my pap didn't have enough cells, ok no big deal, just go back in a month later.  Then she also tells me that I have clymidia.  I was thinking, no way in heck that he only slept with that one girl and it had been forever ago because that would have shown up in august.  So, I get treated and have to take pills that made me so freaking sick-even puking.  I am just hoping that it cleared since I know I threw up about one of the pills(I have to break pills in half to swallow) and I believe that I saw one of them, sorry tmi, when I got sick in the toliet.  All, this time he still hadn't gotten tested, of course because he's a loser.  So, the day after I get the call from my obgyn I call our regular dr and make him an apt.  He goes in the next day(the same day I went to my obgyn to get my shot) and it took them forever to get the results back, or at least they just never called him back.  Its a very small office with just one dr and also a nurse practioner so they are very busy.  So, he gets his results back and he has clymidia(of course) and also freaking HERPES.  I was like no way in heck  am I staying with him now.  When I go back for my dr to recheck my pap and clymidia I'm going see if all the stds will show up on the test or if they just check for clymidia to make sure that I don't have herpes.  I will kill him(not really) if I have it too because you have to live with that for the rest of your life.  So, he finally admits to having sex with more than one girl.  And also I just found that he signed up for another email address, which he was talking to other girls!  After he promised me he would change.  He even deleted his myspace account, yahoo accounts and all of the other emails accounts.   So, now I have to go from being a sahm that just babysits to also having a fulltime job in the evenings and weekends because I don't want to loose out on that money each month.  He claims that he is willing to pay my rent and utilities but I don't think he will.  I am going to keep track of the exact date that he leaves because that way I can file for legal seperation, until we get divorced so that I will get all of the child support that I am owed because I know that he will try to get out of paying it because he is a loser and tries to get out everything or procrastinates to the very last second.  Like say a phone bill is past due he will wait until the day before they are going to shut it off before he pays it.  He will also only have supervised visitations.  I have fowarded all the emails(or most of them) that I found to my sil and she is going to print everything off.  So, that I have proof.  I might be editing incase I left anything out.

[ibarrasgirl]

Jan. 11, 2010 at 2:39 PM

Wowza!  Let's beat this guy up!  What a jerrrrrrrrk!!  I'm so sorry you have to deal with all of this!  You're stronger than me girl, idk what I would do.  Keep your head up, he'll get his cuz KARMA IS A BITCH!!