Talk about a slap in the face!!

[TALuke]

For those of you who have been following our adoption saga, we have a new chapter. 

Remember the birth mom who backed out on us on 9/17?  Well, she emailed me last Tuesday and told me that she couldn't handle the baby plus her other 4 children and asked if we still wanted her.  We said yes, she sent us pics and told us all about the baby, etc.  We flew down to Dallas on Thursday, with the meeting scheduled for Friday morning at 10am.  Hubs and I arrived and received an email from her at 10 saying she had overslept, but was on her way.  At noon, she sent us another email saying  she was putting the baby's things together and was still coming. At 3pm, with no word from her, we left the office and headed back to the hotel.  We came home (to MI) yesterday and still no word from her.  We spent over $4,000 on this trip, with atty fees, airfare, hotels and car. 

Now please understand I am not a cold-hearted person and do sympathize with women who are faced with giving up their babies.  I am 100% sure it is the most difficult thing they will ever have to do.  On the flip side of this, people need to understand how difficult it is for the prospective adoptive parents.  We save money (and LOTS of it), prepare emotionally, prepare a nursery, tell our family and friends, choose a name and on and on.  And I don't want to hear that we should wait until AFTER we have the baby.  The fact of the matter is, we should not have to wait anywhere from 48 hours to 21 days after we have brought the baby home for the birth mom to change her mind. 

I am NOT bashing anyone, simply trying to relay the fact that their are emotions on BOTH sides of this, not just where the birth mom is concerned. 

That being said, we are regrouping and ready to move ahead.  I am a God fearing woman and do believe this happened for a reason.  Perhaps it led me to my ultimate calling in life.  I am now writing a book for prospective adoptive parents, making them aware of the realities of the adoption process.  I will post something about this as well, since I am seeking stories from moms about their adoption journey.

Keep us in your prayers as we continue our search for a baby.

~trully

[GDIMOM]

Oct. 12, 2009 at 1:25 PM

I am really sorry you had to go through that twice!!!

I agree God has a plan and his plan is perfect although we don't always see that.

((Hugs))

[luvpilates]

Oct. 12, 2009 at 1:56 PM

I can see where the birth mom is coming from with the fact that I cannot imagine having to give up a child.  She must have chickened out at the last second and had second thoughts about it.  BUT for her to have you fly all the way out there was very cruel! 

[sherriet]

Oct. 12, 2009 at 5:12 PM

I'm sorry.  I wish she would make up her mind and stop playing with you!