Keep the Foreplay Going

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For many couples, sex is a well-orchestrated event. You get into bed, you both know what you're supposed to do, and it happens. Maybe you even get a regular orgasm out of it — after all, that's one of the benefits of monogamous sex. But on some level, it's just missing something. The spark of unpredictability has gone out and been replaced by the slow simmer of satisfactory repetition. Over and over again.

Time to mix it up! While feeling comfortable and knowing what floats each other's boat is great, you don't want to get stuck in a rut. Even if you can orgasm together in five minutes, there is something to be said for 45 minutes of delicious tension. Many couples find they must make a conscious decision to get back to foreplay: It's one of the best ways to stir up the sexual routine.

In fact, it's helpful if you can make a game out of it. Tell your partner you want him to tease you until you are begging for it (or have him dare you that you can't do the same to him). Pick up a new book of tips and techniques and spend an evening reading it together. Once you get back in the foreplay groove, you won't want to remember how you had sex without it.

By Dr. Laura Berman ~ Passion Files