I dont know what else I can do

[willngingersmom]

 I want to talk to someone, but no one seems to get it. You talk about financial hardship, and 'friends' scatter like cockroaches when the lights go on. But never did I once ask anyone for money, never. I just wanted someone to talk to. I haven't had to work in 6 years, but now I had to so I got the first job I was offered. I make $75 a week. Yes, 75 dollars. I get the how do you pay your bills question a lot. The truth is simple. I am cheap and I rat-holed about $8000 dollars while my husband was deployed. We have been living on that money since March, since he (DH) got out of the Army. There's just $400 left now. Another question is why did you get out of the Army in the first place, and many people warned us not to get out, with good reason. But we had a plan, DH was going to work as a Border Patrol Agent and was at the end of the hiring process. I was pregnant with our third child, whom I wanted to know their father. I wanted my kids to know their dad. Its selfish. But funeral after funeral, memorial after memorial, can you really blame me? I do. My family will be homeless very soon. In just 2 weeks rent is due, and we won't have it. I've never missed a bill in my life. And now due to selfishness, I will live on the street with my babies. I have nothing because I threw it away. We owned our house, we owned a car, we had health coverage for everyone. We've been denied Unemployment 5 times, Welfare 3 times, and my Husband fought for this country twice. Its nice to see what that gets you. I apply for jobs everyday, waiting for something better to come and save us. I've gotten a few interviews but no more offers. I asked for more hours at work after explaining my situation to my boss, and she took me off the schedule that week. I've decided its best to just shut my mouth, and graciously take my 9 hours a week, and just keep looking elsewhere. My husband is trying to get back in, but while the paperwork sits on some higher-ups desk we can do nothing to speed this process up. Our time is up, and no one seems to sense the urgency we do. What else do I do? Patience is not being a good friend, but I need it.

 

[vicki1130]

Oct. 14, 2009 at 11:39 AM

oh man. I'm so sorry honey. I don't have money to help and I'd give it if I had it.. but what I CAN do is pray for you, if you wouldn't mind.

[vicki1130]

Oct. 14, 2009 at 11:42 AM

Oh and just a little comment. It is NOT selfish to want your children to know their father. It's natural. It's not selfish to want your husband to come home to you as whole as possible instead of in a casket. That's natural.

[willngingersmom]

Oct. 14, 2009 at 11:47 AM

Thank you, prayer is greaty appreciated. We dont want to take anyone's money, I know times are tough for everyone, just had to get things off my chest, but thank you for reading-thats really what I needed :)

(Original Poster)

[bikerchickmommy]

Oct. 14, 2009 at 11:53 AM

i'm so sorry about you situation and i truly hope something good happens to you soon. it just blows my mind how many times some one that fought for our country can get denied thing that help his family. i won't say anything what also blows my mind about that, lol. but the fact of the matter is that is  REDICULUAS!!! and i really wish i could bitch slap your boss for you. (pardon my french)

best of luck to you and i truly do home something gets worked out.

[OliviasMommy611]

Oct. 14, 2009 at 11:56 AM

I'm sorry. What is the hold up with getting back in? weird. He needs to call his recruiter and I mean daily. They will take him back, unless he was dishonorably discharged or whatever else. They should be pursuing him at this point.

[LiamandNoahsMom]

Oct. 17, 2009 at 10:37 AM

Heu Corinne. I am so sorry to hear about your situation. I know it wont make it any easier, because it's just harder to blame yourself for your situation. But I don't hink that you were selfish. You have your priorities, and I think it is a great priority that you want you kids have their father around.

Did your husband not get the border patrol job?

I don't think you guys did anything wrong...you had a sound plan...unfortunately it didn't work out.  Drop me a line if you need to vent and need someone to listen!

Everything will work out, even though it sure looks dimm for you right now! Do you guys go to a church that can maybe help you out?

I'll be praying for you and your family!!!

 

Stef