Everyone needs a good rant now and then

[cleanaturalady]

Yes, everyone needs to let off steam now and then and I for one think that Cafemom journals is one of the best places to let off said steam.  No one will judge me, right?  Seriously, you all aren't going to bash me are you?  Oh, well, that is the risk I take when I go off on a rant, yes?  Not everyone is going to a) agree with me or b) give a flying fig about my rant.  So, it is in the spirit of all that is Cafemom-ish that I write this rant.  *jumps off the high-dive*

People who brag about their lives are annoying.  No one wants to know every small detail of our kid's life and every cute thing our kid says.  They don't.  And when we are having a conversation with them and they happen to mention something that is not going so well in their lives and we pipe in with how glorious and fortunate our life is - they want to barf on our shoes.  It is annoying.  Seriously there is nothing wrong with living a happy life and looking on the bright side of things, but there is something seriously off kilter about a person who is always happy.  It makes one look fake and shallow.

Then, when someone calls us on our phony behavior, because they know that there really is something much deeper in us, and we dump all over them and make them the bad guy and ourseves the innocent viticim, it is very, very sad.  Not only is it sad, but it makes us look desperate - like we are trying to hold on tight to the dream-world we have created.  No one is buying it.

Far be it from someone else to try to wrest the beast from inside us to come out and be dealt with.  That would be mean and cruel of them, right?  After all, they are just an unkind, agitated fool that sincerely thought that their help might be desired.  Shame on them.  Much better to just let it lie, just below the surface, and then every time it starts to bubble up, we stuff it back down.  That is a much healthier way to live.  Because studies have shown that people who pretend everything is wonderful in their lives, try desperately to convince themselves that all the bad that is every going to happen in their lives has already happened - those are the people who live longest. *yea, right*

And another thing that is annoying is when in a conversation someone brings up something about a member of their family and invariably we say "Oh, that sounds just like so and so" and proceed to make the conversation about us.  We probably don't even realize that we do this.  No one is going to tell use though, because if they do, then they will look like a lousy friend who is just selfish and wants everything their way.  Yep, that is annoying too.

Life has ups and downs and everything in between.  We all have things that we struggle with.  We are meant to live our lives this way.  It is what develops character, depth and empathy.  I understand that bad things that happen in in our life, can really do a number on us emotionally, God knows, I have my own demons to slay now and then, but when we cannot face them, they are sure to haunt us.  That really is no way to live.  Plus it is just annoying to everyone around. 

Tags: annoying behavior, rant, yes i know it doesn't sound nice, but i deserve a rant now and then too.

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[mama_maggie]

Oct. 15, 2009 at 4:16 PM

VERY true. Good post

[evwsquared]

Oct. 15, 2009 at 4:29 PM

This reminds me of a comment I've heard made by a family member: "I don't hate everyone, just people."

[adoramydear]

Oct. 15, 2009 at 4:32 PM

I quit smoking recently and I have been bugging the hell out of my family. I have just found today that cafemom is a very good place to take out some rage. I wrote a post making fun of my self and my other addiction when some woman who apparently did not see it was a joke wrote a rude comment. I of course came unhinged but at least I stopped thinking of nicotine!

[cleanaturalady]

Oct. 15, 2009 at 4:44 PM

Erica, does this make it sound like I hate people?  Yikes!  That was not my intention.  I love people and all the nuances of interacting with them.  I am just a bit irritated today.

(Original Poster)

[clairandamjones]

Oct. 15, 2009 at 5:10 PM

Kim, it's so uncanny that it's almost scary, but I just posted a journal about how I did exactly this:

Much better to just let it lie, just below the surface, and then every time it starts to bubble up, we stuff it back down.  That is a much healthier way to live.  Because studies have shown that people who pretend everything is wonderful in their lives, try desperately to convince themselves that all the bad that is every going to happen in their lives has already happened - those are the people who live longest. *yea, right*

This is a wonderful and brilliant journal.  Thank you for posting it.

[sosbourn]

Oct. 15, 2009 at 5:14 PM

good post, i know people like this and it is very fake, i might not always go into it and write a blog when im mad or sad but i usually do say i am that at least lol.

[DestMasters]

Oct. 15, 2009 at 5:32 PM

Good post Kimber. I think there are many, many folks who can relate to this.

[Kajenloca]

Oct. 15, 2009 at 6:12 PM

I hope I don't annoy you! ;)

[cleanaturalady]

Oct. 15, 2009 at 6:12 PM

AM, stuffing your feelings down is no way to live.  No matter what emotions come to the surface, we have to confront them.

(Original Poster)

[cleanaturalady]

Oct. 15, 2009 at 6:13 PM

Kim, you do not annoy me. :)  You are funny as heck and I relate to your motherhood woes all too often.

(Original Poster)