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Ten WaysTo Be More Attractive To Your Husband...
In the beginning you tried to do everything to impress him, you spent hours debating what to wear for him. You simply wanted to look your best and nothing less would do. And when he appreciated the effort and complimented you, it was well worth it.

Many women complain that after settling into married life, their husbands don’t compliment them or they don’t get the same attention they received when they were courting. But did you ever stop and think whether you pay the same attention to detail that you did when you were dating? Women often get caught up with juggling household responsibilities and a career and often, dressing to get their husband's approval doesn’t really figure very high on their list of priorities.

Retaining your allure for your partner and continuing to be attractive to him isn’t only about your physical appearance. It goes beyond that. Read on for ten ways to be more attractive to your husband...

10. Don’t get complacent,

It is important not to get too laidback and lounge around all day in pajamas or a nightie have an unkempt look. That doesn’t mean you have to perform household duties looking like a glam doll. Before you get caught up with the chores of the day or sprucing up the house, take some time in the morning to freshen up and make yourself feel good(another good time is when he steps out for salaat hit the mirror and tighten up that "doo" and smeared khohl) If you’re a stay-at-home mom, don’t greet your husband, when he comes home, with your youngest kid's spit-up decorating your blouse. Take the time to shower and look and smell fresh for him when he comes home to you.

9. Ask for his opinion

When you’re buying an outfit or debating on what to wear, get his take on it. Let him know you value his opinion and would like to wear something that pleases him. Pander to his taste and cater to his little fancies, at least once in a while, and he will reward you with an admiring glance and an approving smile (Insha Allah).

8. Maintain yourself

If you can, follow some kind of a fitness regime. It doesn’t have to be rigorous exercise, or if you can’t make the time for it, even the gym. Try and carve out at least 20-30 minutes for a brisk walk that will rejuvenate your senses and keep you in shape. You don’t have to look the way you did when you married him, he won’t mind a little more of you to love, but you can try and ensure you don’t just let yourself go.

If you can’t make the time to exercise, try and maintain a healthy diet and cut back on a few calories. Maintaining yourself physically also contributes to your mental health, sense of self-esteem and even to a more active sex life, which is equally important in a good marriage.

7. Buy something just for him

Occasionally buy a sexy negligee or a frothy bit of lingerie and let him know you did it with him in mind. It will serve the dual purpose of stimulating his visual (and other) senses, and make him happy knowing you did it just for him.

6. Take care of your appearance

Spend a little time – and money – on taking care of your appearance. Just a little pampering and beauty treatment. get a facial, a manicure or a wax. Don’t feel guilty for spending on yourself occasionally and that you have to justify it. Feeling good about yourself and having your husband’s full attention on you is reason enough!

5. Make the first move

Don’t always wait for him to initiate. Tease and tantalize him and make the first move every little while. Your partner is probably preoccupied with boardroom tactics so it’s about time you took over the bedroom maneuvers.

4. Share interests
Show an interest in things that fascinate him, so that he wants to share them with you and doesn’t have to feel guilty about his passions, but can enjoy them with unadulterated pleasure. Quite often, when it comes to their passions, men are little boys in big bodies. And just like kids, they have to be given a little attention and should be pandered to occasionally.

3. Find humor/ laugh together

Laughter, as always, keeps a relationship alive. If a woman has the ability to find humor in everyday situations and can share a few laughs with her partner, it goes a long way towards retaining the spark in a relationship and increasing her allure to her partner.

2. His happiness is important

When a woman indicates to her husband that his happiness is of paramount importance to her, it makes him feel very lucky to have her in his life. Cooking his favorite meals, or even buying a gift for his mother (even if you don’t get along) because his happiness is what matters to you, only serves to make a woman more attractive to her husband.

1. Show that you care

Every single day, in some small way, show your husband just how much he means to you. Tell him you love him, when he’s sick, take care of him like a little child, pack his lunchbox, hug him often and kiss him like you can’t get enough. Knowing that and feeling like he’s the object of your affection will make him feel like a king and want to always have you as his queen.

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Oct. 18, 2009 at 11:30 PM

To be honest, the thought of my soon to be EX touching me made my skin crawl. I did eveything I could to make myself unattractive to him until I finally left him and filed for divorce, Now I care about how I look again.

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Oct. 19, 2009 at 9:14 AM

I am so sory to hear this.... But one thing I know is when a woman or a man is not happy it does put a damper on how you feel about yourself. I am sad to hear of the divorce, I pray that when you look to marry again that Alah bless you with someone good for you and your he sees fit and what you are looking for....insh'Allah... Ameen

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Feb. 10, 2010 at 11:06 AM

Loved this post.Allhamdulillah!!!

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Mar. 22, 2010 at 2:16 PM

I agree with you,I feel so unattractive right now. It is important for a woman to take care of herself so that if she knows she is satisfied with her fitness,health and beauty he should be as well. 

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