He is Back Son#1

[lacylady]

My son the one who wiped his slate clean has returned. He sent a message to ( my 17 year old) Chucky via my space saying hi then happy birthday. This is the first time we have heard from him since march 8, 2005. We couldn't have gotten in touch with him had Chucky had a terrible accident or whatever. He wouldn't accept phone calls , then his wife took me to court for harassing her, calling her phone. The only number we had for my son,he was ordered to talk to chucky once a day and visit ever other week end. The judge said the phone was in her name so we were not allowed to call again. Then went on to tell her how sorry they both were. Anyway,she claimed they were divorce. All lies anyway now the day after his 17th birthday he gets in touch. Says just wanted to wish you a happy birthday. Would like to see you this week end lets go camping So Chucky talks to me I said the choice is yours I wil stand behind your decision. He says I would like to see him and sissy (14 yrs old). So the dad says I will pick you up Fri. but don't want to come to THEIR house. So met at the park is agreed upon. He then sends message on my space can't go camping got to do work on wifes car. Lets just go do lunch on saturday. That's set for sat around 1 he will let him know when he gets here. He lives thirty minutes away. Well, saturday comes and goes. Sunday afternoon gets here chuckys gets a message I'm at work in Connecticut. (drives a truck) sorry couldn't meet up but got called into work maybe when I get back we can do something. This is after not seeing him for four years. Not a phone call not a happy birthday he sends his cs weekly. He sends it with no return address. He could have written Happy Birthday on the cs money order? Never did. Could have written Marry Christmas never did. Now this. He did tell him I'm not mad at any body but I don't want anything to do with THEM. Well, what makes HIM think he is welcome to just walk back in? My husband HIS dad is just waiting and hope he will just come on in. NOT ME I can not and will not just open my heart up and let him stomp it again. I can't do this again I'm 55 I still have a life and I will not let him beat me down again. He knows better I taught him better so no its not his choice to decide oh well now you can come back into me life mom. No thank you son you don't come back that way. I am not over it. My slate was wiped clean by you. And I intend to keep it that way. I love you and always will but lets keep the slate clean no need to mess up a good thing..YOU took me out of your life 4 years ago you took my only grand daughter out of my life really over 8 years ago she was only 6 years old when she was allowed to be around us as family. she is now 14 years old. I have not even known her she is so grown up mow she don't even know us. So Lets just love each other and leave it all wiped clean       .Love mom

[Lb128f]

Oct. 20, 2009 at 12:04 PM

I'm sorry...but, yeah...I think you may be right in feeling like everything is okay like it is now. He doesn't sound very responsible. ;(

[pumpkinpie778]

Oct. 21, 2009 at 12:01 AM

Sons I have 1, girls I have 2, my son dotes on both his parents and mothers his baby sister and follows his big sisters lead. My son will hand me his shoes when we have to go for a walk to pick up his big sister from school or hand me a new shirt to dress in. At 3 my son wants me to pick him up, a little blonde girl at the park said to me when I told ,y son we have to go home now sweetheart, No he does not want to go home if he does not feel like it lol. A boy said to him he was cute and little girls smile at him and say hello and consider him