I won't be on for a few days

[MOmomof8]

My dh's childhood best friend passed away on Saturday in St. Louis.  He had liver cancer but it started as a brain cancer some years ago.  My dh has been asked to be a pallbearer so we will be leaving for Hannibal tomorrow.  Since they had to transfer the body from St Louis to Hannibal.  They wake will be Wednesday night & the funeral will be Thursday morning.  Since there is no school on Friday, I'm trying to get my dh to stay until Saturday or Sunday.  We will be staying with my in-laws which is why my dh don't want to stay any longer than need be.  He thinks they are to critical on him & his choices in life.  I think that is 20 years of brainwashing by his former wife cause she didn't like them.  I don't think they are critical, they do make statements about his choice of pants but it's just typical mom stuff.  They make a statement about it, then it's dropped.  I think my in-laws are hysterical.  His dad just crackes me up.  My dh had to pull me out of the room when his parents was talking to his uncle about selling the big house.  They moved to a condo so his uncle had to find another place to live.  He was upset about it.  He was  mostly talking to his sister, my mother-in-law, & his dad was making comments about the things he was saying.  It just cracked me up so bad I couldn't stop laughing.  My father-in-law enjoyed me laughing so he just kept it up.  Then my dh pulled me into another room.  I quess his dad & I were being bad...lol   His uncle is hard of hearing so he had no idea.  I don't see how my mother-in-law didn't loose it too.   They told that I am the only one of my dh's wifes that they have really liked.  They seemed really upset with his former wife.  She passed away about 6 years ago.   My dh talks like she could walk on water.  But the more I hear about her & find in her stuff, I think  he really didn't know her or kept his eyes closed.   I cleaned out her nightstand & found a lot of condoms which isn't needed with my husband cause he has been steril for more than 25 years.  So why did she have them?  She went on trips by herself cause she was a travel agent.  I guess she won these trips.  When she married my dh she knew he couldn't have anymore kids & accepted it.  Then after a year or two she started wanting to have a baby.  They went through infetro but lost the baby 10 days after his birth.  My dh lost his only child , now he had last another one.  My dh has a really soft heart so it took some time for him to get over those loses, if he even has yet.   Then they became foster parents which is how they came to adopt the girls.  He tells me how great a wife she was but the girls tell me different.  Brandi was the one that did most of the caretaking of the house & kids.  But she isn't bitter about it.  I think I would be, but not her.  That is part of the reason why his parents didn't like her.  She put  him through the lost of a baby when he couldn't make babies anymore, then she kept him away from them by telling him that they are too criitial of him.   They are just like another parent that loves their child.   They want him to be the best he can be & his clothes are about all they say anything about.   We live in the basement of our house which is odd & they don't understand it but I think few people do, including me.  This is the way it was when I moved in & my dh don't like alot of change all at once.  I've almost got him talked into moving upstairs when it's all done, almost.  I love him so we live in the basement like he has for 10 years.  I think if his former wife had really loved him, she wouldn't have put him through what they had to so she could get pregnant. 

There is alot of things to see in Hannibal & the surrounding towns.  He likes to take me to places he worked so we go to Bowling Green, Louisana, I fought the rest.  I remember these only bc my granddaughter lived in Bowling Green awhile & Louisanna has a cool bridge among other things.  We always go to Chad's grave, he was my dh's first born.  His is buried way out in the boonies.  There are certain places that he has to eat at & we go to the light house.  He likes lighthouses to the point that he collects them. 

So I may not be back on here until we get back.  I have 2 weeks of laundry to do & figure out what I am going to wear since a lot of my clothes don't fit right now.  I am working on it, I've lost 4 pounds in 2 weeks which is what my doctor wanted me to lose weekly.  I also have to find a bra that fits & is comfortable enough.  No bra fits right bc of my reconstruction which is one of the reasons I am working on losing weight.  The surgery wants me to get my weight down before doing surgery.  I am having my left breast removed as a preventive step & then she will reconstruct my left & fix my right. 

So please remember us in your prayers for a save trip.   Thank you.

[MSugarKane]

Oct. 20, 2009 at 6:45 PM

Have a safe trip!