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Answering questions with a question
- Oct 21, 2009 at 6:08 PM
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This is my philosophy for raising children. I have some funny stories that go along with with this parenting technique. I am going to skip the stories for today's serious post.
My daughter woke up this morning and started getting ready for school. She walks up to me and tells me she has a question.
Me: Go ahead.
Her: If a woman gets pregnant but doesn't want to be what happens?
Me: What made you ask that question?
Her: I just thought of it.
Me: What do think happens?
Her: I think she should be able to pray and poof the baby goes away.
Me: What if that doesn't work?
Her: Well...adoption.
Me: What if the woman didn't want the baby in her tummy the whole time? What if she had to go to the doctor to have the baby taken out?
Her: That isn't good. Adoption should happen.
Without any prompting my child is pro-life. I am pro-life my husband walks the line of pro-choice. We have never mentioned this to her or around her. We have not planted in ideas in her head. I found this conversation very interesting.
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That wasn't the point of the post. The point is that she came to her own conclusion. I don't expect her to get the answer right on because she is only almost 8.
I am saying that we all need to lead our children but we don't need to feed them their answers. Our children are their own person and have their own thoughts and ideas. Of course this can be taken to the extreme but I thought it was a productive conversation.
That is a great conversation. It is amazing wht we can learn from our kids and what our kids actually laready have opinions about if we just LET them!
I'm pro-choice, myself, but I think it's really great that your daughter came to her own conclusion like that. Allowing our children to have their own thoughts and ideas is great. I love that. = )
Becca... almost all children are pro-life because they don't have the grasp of anything more complicated than just "baby alive/baby not alive." That's about it. ;)
I'm just wondering what she heard that made her think to ask you about that?
Christie, I asked her what she heard and she said she hasn't heard anything. I really don't know where she would have heard it from. I guess maybe someone at school said something. She usually tells me if I ask though.
I figured most kids were pro-life. I just thought it was good that we had open communications. I didn't then jump on a band wagon to make the point more or less firm with her. It was just on honest conversation.
I wonder how others handle this conversation with their children. It would be interesting to be a fly on the wall.
Oh Rebeccalynn, don't get me wrong, I think it's great that you don't tell your daughter what to think, and let her make up her own mind!
I just tend to get on my soapbox when it comes to the whole adoption thing, sorry :P
hmm interesting conversation.i have a 30 yr old daughter who is married and had a baby.well she agrees with the way the baby is getting out but at the time there was no way the baby got in there like that.well its been 2 yrs and she has the concept.but i am also pro life but i dont even think my daughter knows what abortion or even adoption is...ok my dd ,mil is married to a woman but of course was married to a man.she asked how the 2 ladies could have had a baby...im telling you..
That's a neat conversation with your daughter! It doesn't need to be broken down or analyzed. Just take it for what it is, and it's a positive thing that your girl thinks that way on her own!
Your daughter is amazing! :o)
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