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Who asked you anyway?
- Oct 22, 2009 at 7:50 PM
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All day I have been thinking it is Friday. Maybe it is just wishful thinking. Or perhaps it is because this week has seemed extra long. Whatever the reason, I am ready for this week to be over. I want a do-over week in the worst possible way.
Amidst the chaos of this week, with a sick kid, volunteer duties and helping my husband prepare for a business trip - all while in the throws of a hormonal whirlwind, I might add - the last thing I need is people coming to my page and my journals and leaving rude comments. Seriously, do people not have any tact or decorum any longer? I often wonder what motivates someone who has never had an interaction with another person to make a quick appraisal of that person and then decide that, based on what little they know about them, to publicly take said person's inventory. I truly do not understand this sort of behavior.
I have never, in all my time on this site - EVER gone on to a journal or a page for the sole purpose of insulting a person. Yes, I have argued my point with people. I have disagreed with others, but I have NEVER gone and left comments on journals or their page simply to say something mean. What would be the point? That is a rhetorical question - THERE IS NO POINT. Yet people feel that they know me well enough to come on to my page, my journals, and even (more than once) on to someone else's journal that I have commented on, to give me advice on any number of things.
Get a life and stop reading my journals if you don't like them. Stay off of my page if you can't say something nice. Who cares how many journals a day I comment on that were or were not written by someone on my friend's list? Don't you have better things to do than to go around looking to see how many journals I comment on? Why do you care what I write about? You know NEXT TO NOTHING about me, and yet you just can't help but feel that you have a right to tell me A) Whose journals I can comment on. B) What I can and cannot write about and C) Who I can be friends with. The list goes on, but these are the top three things that people 'comment' about. Newsflash! I don't answer to you. I did not ask you for your advice. Leave me alone.
Really! Some people need to put a bit of forethought into the things they say to others. I don't care if it is just on the Internet to an absolute stranger, or in person to someone really close to you, you need to be more intentional in your interactions. Ask yourself three questions before you say (or write) something to another person.
- Is what I am about to say constructive?
- Is it edifying?
- Is this beneficial to the person I am speaking with?
If you cannot answer all three of those questions with a Yes, then, perhaps you should just keep it to yourself because what you are about to say is only going to either hurt someone's feelings, make them angry or make you look foolish. You don't have to say everything that is on your mind. Self restraint is a wonderful quality, so why not spend a little of your free time cultivating that quality within yourself.
I have been very fair to people who have said rude things to me on this site. I have not deleted comments. I have not blocked people or stooped to the level of name calling. I believe in freedom of speech and that is why I have allowed it. My patience is wearing thin, however. I am just really getting tired of it. Just go away and leave me alone. If you have a personal, legitimate concern about my behavior TOWARD YOU, then there is a nifty little thing they have here on Cafemom - it is called Private Messaging. It is called that because you can message someone privately instead of leaving snide, cryptic, rude little comments on journals and in chatterboxes. I am open to constructive, edifying, beneficial criticism. I always strive to be a better person tomorrow than I was today, but I do not need the constant digs.
Oh, here is one more question you might want to ask yourself before you hit that send button: Would I like it if someone said that to me? If the answer is no, then don't do it. Just hit the back button and keep on moving because there's nothing to see here, folks. Go somewhere else and peddle your advice there, k?
Tags: rant, rude, people, you know who you are
Comments:
Oh wow! I have one person in mind that fits this description.
RIGHT ON SISTER!
Don't like it (or you), then don't read it, let alone leave a snide comment.
I'm sorry you are having to deal with that kind of garbage! It feels like my high school classroom on a regular basis.... COMMEN SENSE PEOPLE!
I agree, constructive criticism is always good for personal growth, just not by random strangers/stalkers, But boy hard to swallow your pride and listen to it some times though.
Kim, I cannot believe that someone would do something like that to YOU! You would be the LAST person on the cafe I would think that would happen to!
Great journal...and ITA!!!
Very logical, very true. This has been a very odd occurrence for you. It has befuddled me, and it definitely does feel like high school. Actually, more like 7th grade---the mean girl stage. Ugh. I hated 7th grade. I love you, though!
Well said. Some people have no filter and think it's OK...It's not!!!
~Pam
HUGS. It's sad that someone would feel the need to attack you and your journal! Take heart that it is truly not YOU at fault...if it wasn't you that person was criticizing it would be someone else. Some people are just made that way! I love you. :) WRITE ON!!
Damn haters. Love you Kim!!
Thank you guys. I appreciate the support. I try not to let the haters get me down.
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wow. sorry u are having to deal with that. some people really just need to get over themselves.