Mean women on Cafemom...

[MommyMandi86]

 I am sick and tired of seeing some ladies on here put others down and bash other moms.  For example, I asked a question in the "answers" section.  My question was, does anyone know where I can make money blogging.  Some really nice and helpful moms responded.  However, there was this one that posted anonymously and said this:

Isn't this post really asking, how can I get paid to play on the computer all day? If blogging were a paid job someone could live on, do you not think people as lazy as they are today would be scrambling to have that job. Amazing at how many questions women have that ask how can I get paid to work at home on my computer, when they are really asking is how do I get free money for goofing off that I'm going to do anyway. This post screams of desperation, I need money, I don't have any money, so where can I find money and call it a job because playing on the computer is what I really want to do instead of finding a real job. OMFG already.

I can't work...I have a severe seizure disorder that keeps me from working.  I write sometimes to help relieve stress and that maybe I could get a little money for it...it would pay for a little something for my family...groceries...a night out...whatever.  I hope this anonymous person feels like an ass for posting that.  How dare she...I am not lazy and I have never been afraid of hard work!  I just recently had to stop working (2 years ago) because my epilepsy got so bad that I couldn't preform any duties on a regular basis.  I just can't believe this!  At least I'm not receiving disability AND trying to get paid for writing.  Nothing is coming out of her pocket for it.  She needs to get off her damn high horse...I wish I knew who she was...people sure do have a lot to say when they hide their identity...I feel bad enough as it is that I have epilepsy and am not able to work...this is just a kick in the gut, assuming that I am lazy.  I am seriously considering just shutting down my account.  I don't need someone else's negativity.  Especially on a website that I come to in order to express myself and get help from others.  I hope anon comes across this post...tell me who you are, self righteous bitch. 

[Anouck]

Oct. 22, 2009 at 7:51 PM

Oh sweetie, don't let anonymous bitches like that get you down... Some women just love taking out their own unhappiness on others, know what I mean?

My best friend in the world is a blogger. She has a little girl who's blind, and has various other issues, and she spends MOST of her time taking care of her, making sure she gets all the help she can get, teaching her, etc etc. She used to have a column on babble.com, and I know she got paid for that, depending on how many hits her column would get.

Regardless, I know one thing, that woman works harder than just about ANYBODY I know, so that whole "lazy blogger looking for free money" argument is ridiculous.

Good luck, I wish I could help more, but I'll keep my fingers crossed for you and again, don't let bitches like that get you down!

[LauraMi261]

Oct. 22, 2009 at 7:53 PM

The Answers section is rough and it's pretty open to the public. You don't know if it was a kid playing with you. Please don't let it bother you anymore.

[kkbird]

Oct. 22, 2009 at 7:59 PM

dont worry about her.... we are here for support and advice of other moms, don't let her get to ya.  PMS probably...... take care....good luck to ya

[say_tay]

Oct. 22, 2009 at 8:04 PM

That Anon buttons gives some women mad "computer screen courage".  Igorne them. Find your core group that you love, and stick with them. or you'll go nuts.

[sweetheart1985]

Oct. 22, 2009 at 8:24 PM

I agree with you. That answers section is one of the most hateful things I've ever viewed. Usually you get about 3 helpful answers and about 10 rude, judgemental, jerk face answers. It's ridiculous.

I don't know why women can't get it through their heads that we're not in competition with each other, and that being a "bitch" doesn't make you cool. It makes you unwanted.

[MommyMandi86]

Oct. 23, 2009 at 8:52 AM

Thanks to all of you ladies, your comments did make me feel better!  I will just  go to my groups to ask questions.  Thank you again!!! <3

(Original Poster)

[DogsMom]

Nov. 26, 2009 at 11:51 AM

I saw the post in Answers section and was ready to send you words of encouragement and tell you not to listen to bitter negative people like the anon poster. As I continued reading I saw you responded yourself and did a great job.  Never let anyone tell you what you can and can not do. If you are passionate about it, persistent, do not quit, I believe you will find a way.