Do you ever regret...............

[moodywife]

I am so stressed out! I am 22 I have 3 kids and a hubby,and a little brother who is 20. My mom went through a divorce 4 years ago and took my little brother down to LA where she moved in with her mom. Her mom kicked my little brother out last year in October. It's becase all he really did was play on the computer and didn't really help. So my mom gave me some money to move up north with,and get an apartment. (I had my own place up here before that but got evicted due to a slum lord) Anyways..... I moved up here got an aprtment,and my brother came up here. Ok that was fine it was only supposed to be for a little while since he was supposed to get a job and get his own place. Anyways I got a job like 2 weeks after moving up here and was working,but got pregnant. Well I worked until I was 6 months pregnant but got fired because my job working with developmentally disabled adults was against people who were pregnant. So I got on cash aid until I had the baby. So my son is a month old and my husband is getting 900.00 a month on UE, So I got cut off cash aid. I have no idea how we are supposed to live off that. I have been looking for a job everyday leaving the kids with the in-laws. My brother has not yet to get a job,refuses to clean most of the time,sits on the computer all day and night. Won't do anything to help with the electricity. He's rude,doesn't get off the computer or make dinner or anything. My husband and I have yet to have one night alone since we have been together. My brother sleeps all day on my livingroom floor,then when I try to watch tv he yells into his mic on the computer playing some online game. I have tried to talk to my mom about it but she cant help and I am stressed what to do?

[troysmom2004]

Nov. 2, 2009 at 1:06 AM

First do you have PG&E or city of Redding? Call Northern Valley Catholic Services, Salvation Army, POP and talk to your welfare worker about help and to sign  up for Adopting Family for Christmas. Did you signed up for unemployment since your last employer fired you? As for your brother, sounds like some tough love has to be enforce, but with family I know its hard.  But you and your husband derserves respect.  I have been there, i wish you luck and prayers.

[yearningtobemom]

Nov. 15, 2009 at 6:23 PM

Keep your chin up sweetheart...I will say a prayer for you. I agree with troysmom and have adopted familys for the holidays and such....everyone deserves A HAPPY HOLIDAY. You and your husband need some relief from your daily stressors...as for your brother ....either he contribute in some way or he faces the consequences...no computer, etc...