RIP Sperm Donor

[SalemWitchChild]

My brother just called to tell me our father died. Now before you give your condolences. I must explain I'm not exactly heartbroken over it. He abandoned our family when I was 3. My brother may be upset because he was older. But our father was a stranger to me. If you wish to give condolences do so for my brother. Otherwise. So long sperm donor. It is a bit disconcerting that I have no feelings of grief or regret. To be honest when my brother called we could have been talking about the weather for as much emotion I felt and still feel. The bottom line is this, here's an acknowledgment of a stranger that had one night of mediocre sex to make me. Thanks for the donation.

[Rebeccalynn_dj]

Oct. 23, 2009 at 6:06 PM

I can relate.  I found out my birth grandmother died a few weeks ago.  It was weird because I don't care about her because she was a stranger and made bad choices.

I hope that you continue to feel okay with it.  If you want to talk to someone that can relate let me know.

[clairandamjones]

Oct. 23, 2009 at 6:55 PM

My husband's reaction to his mother's death was a lot like this.  She also abandoned his family when he was very little, and though he saw her a few times while he was growing up and as an adult, he never really knew her.  It was a bit disconcerting for me to see someone experience almost no emotion on the death of their parent, but my family is all very close, so I can't really relate.

I will offer my condolences to your brother.  He may have some mixed feelings to deal with in accepting his dad's death.

[firenicecream]

Oct. 23, 2009 at 7:17 PM

I'm glad he made you!

[Enchantee]

Oct. 23, 2009 at 7:58 PM

I can understand your feelings, love. 

I am grateful, as Fire N Ice Cream says, that something wonderful came from his presence on our planet...YOU!  *wink*

Hugs...Ceci

[witchfantasy]

Oct. 24, 2009 at 12:55 AM I can relate not from my own experience with MY parents, but I'm sure when my 2 oldest kids get older and get told when their "Sperm donor" dies that they'll probably have the same reaction. Me honestly, I may shed a tear because I did love him at one point but I don't think my kids would care. I'm so sorry that he put you through that though. I couldn't imagine what it's like. Broke my heart enough when I was abandoned by my ex.

[prissmom]

Oct. 28, 2009 at 4:05 PM

I never even met my dad.  He just liked to mess with women's hearts.  Promise to love them and be with them.  Then he would leave them like he left his first family.

I had a wonderful Mother.  I say had because I lost her to Alzheimers' years ago.  her body is still living, but she has been long gone.  I knbow now how much pain he caused her and I weep for her loss.   And now I weep for mine...my only parent, my Mother.