I Feel Guilty All the Time

[MSugarKane]

Everyday I feel nagging guilt in my head telling me that I'm not being a good mom.

I hold high expectations for myself as a mother because I never want to be like my own mother.

I hated her. From the ages of 12-16 she was absent from my life, when I needed her most. She was always cold and unaffectionate. I could never come to her with a problem, or a story about anything that happened that day. She was physically absent sometimes, but mentally absent always.

I hated her and I don't want my daughter to hate me. I get this awful feeling, though, when I sit my baby down with some toys and leave her so that I can eat or do some chores that I am neglecting her. If I'm not contantly playing with her, I feel like I'm neglecting her.

I even go so far to think that she likes my sisters better than me,  her mother!

My guilt makes me angry at myself, it makes me second-guess my every move, and I feel like crap.

 

 

 

[MSugarKane]

Oct. 24, 2009 at 7:40 AM

The role of a mom is to teach a child to be independent for themselves as an adult.  
It starts with teaching them to play with their toys, by themselves and have fun doing so.

Your doing right by moving around the home doing housework and laundry while the child plays.  The child is learning much more from that by seeing you be a care taker of the home as well as tending to the child's needs.

Have fun with her!

[Kellyjude1]

Oct. 24, 2009 at 7:43 AM

Don't allow that guilt to bring you down. It is okay to take a break away for a little while for yourself. I am so sorry for the way your mom treated you. Do not second guess yourself.  Think positive and know you are being the best mommy you can and that is all that matters! Stay strong...