The Importance Of Guiding Young Children

[SimpleLove_23]

I'am a firm believer that children "ARE" A product of there environment.They are not born lil devils,pain's in the butt,brats.They get that way because of the lack of attention,care,attendance from the ones that should be caring for them,over seeing them & there growth. Over the years dealing with kids has become a even more of a job,taking care of children is work but because of the society we live in and the people (adults) in there lives pushing them aside. The task when taken is back breaking and draining.As a young adult (tween) as they call them today, I was subjected to working with young kids.It started off as me tagging along with my mom to the camp she worked,volunteering throughout the program. I noticed that A LOT of the kids came from broking home's.One parent was locked up,dead or just not in there life, they were living with maybe other relatives because mom or dad couldn't care for them. Being shuffled from home to home really took it's toll. You could see it in there face,there eyes.The way they carried themselves, after seeing this my attitude about working changed. It went from " Oh I Don't Want To Do This,Be Here" To " How Can I Help" How Can I Make Things Better For Them" I think about all the times I sat in disgust because my folks may have said NO to me doing something,me getting something. How I thought my issues were so bad, Not understanding there were people,children,adults in worst conditions than me and that my problems,my beliefs were totally irrelevant.I was living the " Good Life". It was a real wake up call. From 13 till 20 my work,my jobs focused around children,young adults. It wasn't planned that way, It was more a calling,a job bestowed upon me by God. I never planned to work with kids,that all my jobs would in some way deal with instructing,over seeing young people.Over the years I've taken in all of this information. Living in the inner city as they call it, going to public schools, being friends with young people that wouldn't live to see there 21st bday, didn't have both parents,were beaten,raped,abused and knowing all this made me understand that i needed to count my blessing and enjoy every single day of my life.Once I got to the age were I really understood things,what was being said around me,all I heard was talk of children are this,there that,there brats,there horrible,nothing good was said about young people.People are refusing to work with kids now & days for fear of there life. You can take a 4 yr old in to school and next thing you know he's harming another child or the teacher and then people are talking down on that child and trying to punish him or her. NOOOOO He is a product of his environment. We as adults need to stand up,step forward and take responsibility for our actions. Were the ones these little one's look up too. We need to slow down,stop and think. Were so busy doing this,doing that. We say were busy,busy working,busy doing this. We're quick to push them aside, as if there dolls,like they will wait around forever on us. We need to be more concerned with who they will be,who they become in the future. We need to be sitting down,getting to know what they like,what they believe in,what make's them smile,what there into.Trying to see what we can or could do to make there life better. In order for the curse to be broken and YES I said CURSE because that's what it is,the passing on of problems,troubles,pains to the next generation. We need to step up and break this!!! Show that we care and that we are here for them. Right now alot of young adults,tweens,children are feeling unwanted,not cared for. I don't care if you don't have kids,if you don't plan on having any,if you have one or two or ten.At some point in time you need to stop and look at a child that may be walking by you, sitting next you,in your family,a friends child and ask yourself " Is there anything I can do for them"? You'd be amazed what you will find out if you just ask them. I'm tired of hearing older people complaining about children about how there trouble. There trouble ONLY If you let them get there, My focus from 15 onto now has been children, I have one of my own but even before she cam about I LOVED working with kids, the love they bring, the joy they give off. It infects you, takes over you. You can't help but let go and be carefree. I enjoy the smiles, the need to get a hug,the wanting to share a secret or tell me something.IF I worked with kids till my dying day and only knew I helped 1 single child out of many then all the back aches,the headaches,the frustrations will be worth it. I can wake up or leave this earth knowing that I did something positive,I helped shape a child into something wonderful. I encourage everyone and I mean EVERYONE,No matter your age,race,sex,if you come from wealth or middle class to help a young child out. To take them under your wing, you will feel Good and find your mood being better,you will find yourself enjoying life, have pep in your step LoL. Please Remember The Next You Go OR Get Ready To Talk Down On A Child That The Way They Act Is Due In Part To Who Raises Them,If You Scold Anybody Do So To The People That Should Be Caring For Them AND If Possible You Step For And Guide Them♥

[NannyB.]

Oct. 26, 2009 at 8:23 AM

This is so much the truth.  Children have to be loved and trained.  They were never meant to just grow up on their own.