10 Quick Tips To Improve Self-Esteem

[TexasSweetThang]

 I have actually been on a journey since January to improve myself and bring my high self-confidence back. Sometimes I think I have sat around and done absolutely nothing and that I should actually get off my butt and make effort to improve my self-esteem but when I look back on who I was in January, I can actually see a drastic improvement. Am I fixed? Absolutely not. I am, however, 1,000 times stronger than I was in January. I thought posting this article I found on ways to improve self-esteem might help some of you that are in my shoes at this very moment... OR... Are in the over-sized, hole-ridden shoes I was in on January 5th 2009...

1. Do what you love.
Everyone loves to do something, when you indulge yourself in your love you improve the way you feel about yourself. You improve your self esteem.

2. Help others out.
Nothing makes you feel a warmer glow than when you unselfishly help others. Of course you can argue that this in itself is selfish, but if you take that line of thought you must think that existence is selfish. Forget that. Just do a good deed, help someone out, doesn’t have to be big and it doesn’t have to cost any money.

3. Acknowledge your strengths
There is no one who has no strengths. Everyone is good at something, know what your good at and give yourself a pat on the back. Do things that bring this quality out into the open. Exercise it, make it stronger.

4. Don’t put up with crap.
There is no reason you should tolerate other people being mean to you. Even if they say they are doing it with love. Make sure people know they should be nice to you and if they refuse, walk away from them.

5. Drop your negative friends.
Hang out with people who are positive and support you. It may be fun to bitch and moan but if you hang out with these types of people you will eventually become one of them. You may have noticed that people who bitch and moan are never happy.

6. Do your research
A lot of self help books are a waste of time in the sense that the only person who can change you is you. Reading even this blog post will not change you unless you get emotionally involved with the information. Which is really hard as it’s really dry and boring. Go read biographies of people you respect, people who do positive things and attain huge success. Learn from the master not the self help guru who is always in debt.

7. Learn to accept compliments.
It’s hard to accept a compliment and not to dismiss it as being ridiculous. Someone has an opinion and it should be respected, even if you do not agree with it. If people think good about you then maybe you should too.

8. Include positivity in your life.
I’m not talking an airy fairy chant in the mirror whilst naked. I mean take a positive slant on everything automatically. The meat pie you just bit in to may contain maggots, but maggots contain a lot of protein. OK that’s a bit extreme but you get the point.

9. Compare yourself against yourself.
If you look at how you were yesterday and how you are today and there is an improvement then that is great. If there is no improvement then you know you need to improve your efforts. Don’t start comparing your self to other people. Saying you are poor compared to D. Trump is just going to make you miserable.

10. There is no need for you to put yourself down.
Seeing yourself in a negative light, you are only reinforcing your low self esteem. If you want to improve your self esteem. Ask yourself, how can I improve my self esteem. The answer will always be, find one positive thing about yourself and that will do it.

[saslis]

Oct. 28, 2009 at 3:49 PM

 

Great Post!

Lisa

www.nosickvisits.com

[momiofcristina]

Oct. 28, 2009 at 4:22 PM

I honestly think I am not good at anything. It sounds worse that it really is, but I have no passion for anything.  I wish I did, but I never found what I love to do in life. And I have no idea how to go about finding it.

[mamawmom]

Nov. 8, 2009 at 9:15 AM

Wanted to say thanks.I started out not knowing anything about photography and was embarraced at some of my post.But on the rare occation I get one right,you've been nice enough to notice and that has helped my self esteem.Good post.Loved the reference to the maggot pie.Made me laugh because Ive never heard it before.