update on situation with Noah

[mysticmom2]

Ok. So yesterday morning I woke up and sent Noah off to school. I was still upset and worried about him. I didnt have to be at the school to volunteer until 11 yesterday. So I decided to come home after dropping them off and finish up some stuff I was working on. I realized as I was doing this my hands were super shaky because I was so stressed about all of this. So I decided to get on the phone and call the therapist hes been working with at the school and than his teacher. The therapist wont be back at the school until Tuesday where she is going to follow up with him on it and do some activities about being able to tell when someone is really his friend and try to help him pick up on some other signals with kids. His teacher told me she had no idea this happened and that she wanted to talk to the kids and than to me in person. So I ended up going up there earlier than planned where she filled me in. She said she pulled Noah to the side to get his story and than the little girl. She said the little girl didnt have much to say at first but as she kept explaining it to her she said she began to cry. So she said she wasnt sure if she got through to her or if she was just upset from being in trouble. But she hoped she understood what had happened more. Than they called the other little boy in and talked to him. She said after recess she pulled Noah over and asked him if everything went ok and he said yeah. So hopefully everything is settled for now. I feel much better. She said she told Noah to please come and tell her if someone is trying to make him do something that makes him feel uncomfortable and not to be afraid to tell them no. She also said the little girl is new this year and she told her that the behavior she showed would not be tolerated at this school and if it happened again that she would go to the principal's office. Im going to try to make it a point while im up there to make sure I poke my head in the classroom and out on the playground and lunch more to check on everything. Also maybe like one of the PTO ladies brought up to me if the kids see me checking in Noah a lot they might be too scared to pick on him if they are afraid of being caught. So anyways, thats the update for now. Thank you all for your support. It really helped me feel better.

[Indymommy5]

Oct. 30, 2009 at 9:27 AM

I'm happy that you're feeling better! And YAY! to the teacher for taking action and helping fix and prevent future meaness

[BDeiul]

Oct. 30, 2009 at 8:25 PM

That's the way to do it!  Getting involved and keeping the lines of communication open is a great thing. You know, at this age, children don't often understand how cruel they are being when they do things like this.  Helping them learn how to be sensitive and what is and isn't appropriate behavior helps everyone get along better.  That little girl sounds like she doesn't necessarily understand other people's feelings either (she's just on the opposite end of the spectrum from Noah).  She needs help learning how her actions affect other people.  I'll keep Noah in my prayers, that this will help his classroom become a more understanding place.