Is he really that into you?

[AzIzAzIzA]

Ok, this may just be my hormones talking (post partum can be a killer)....But im sitting here-just watched the movie-HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU...and Im wondering-how do you know if he really is into you?  I know movies are all about emotionalism and drama and romance, thats what keeps the audience watching-but in real life...how do you really know that your DH or SO or whoever is that into you?  Are you just thinking he's into you because you are into him?  How do you know this is the one that you are meant to be with?  When there is no real romance-or fun in the relationship anymore-How do you spark it back?  Do you spark it?  Or do you just continue living one day at a time-hoping and praying, (as single people do) for that proverbial phone call??  I dont know, Im just throwing this out there---what do you think? 

[KrhMsh]

Oct. 30, 2009 at 1:50 PM

I read the book after I had my daughter, and had postpartum depression and I spoke to my therapist about it and she screamed at me for reading/buying into such BS, that it should be thrown into the fire because it SO doesn't apply to like 80% of relationships, and she told me(having met with hubby AND myself) that he WAS into me, and just because there was stupid little instances that demonstrated examples in the book that it didn't mean shit. lol

Advice to get our relationship back on track was start over, date eachother again, once you know someone doesn't mean you know them forever, people change, so there's always new things to learn and new experiences to share! There's also stuff I'm sure neither party has done and you can share these new experiences together whether it's a new restaurant that isn't your typical 'italian, mexican, american, chinese etc etc' You could try fondue, or paint pottery, do a cooking class, a wine tasting, visit a local fair, go put-put golfing, there's SO many things, even board games, and all you need is an open mind and a good attitude!

Although I haven't seen the movie I wouldn't hesitate to label it as pure entertainment value, and am no longer nieve enough to let any of the "advice" bother me, because it's not great advice!

[AzIzAzIzA]

Nov. 18, 2009 at 5:20 PM

Thx for the advice...no i realize that the whole movie/book is strictly for entertainment purposes, but it just got me thinking as to how do you know he is as into you and you are into him...just relationship issues i am trying to work out-but hard to work on them by yourself!

(Original Poster)

[Ummruzeeh]

Jan. 25, 2010 at 3:41 PM

I dont have the answers but those are some pretty good questions that you threw out there...its like you are not taking away anyone's imperfections, as we all are not perfect...however but keep it real, how DO you know?? Is it worth it to find out? And would you be able to handle the truth if he wasnt? Sorry I know I am late and wrong, but its a good read!